I hate males

Ok, I'm not proud of this, but I seriously cannot feel anything but bitter resentment toward 95% of males between the ages of 18-35 that I've interacted with.

Let me just say that I love the idea of men, but the ones I meet in reality are boys or guys...I've only met 2 actual "men" in my entire life--my father and my uncle. All the rest are just immature, sex-crazed douche bags.

I know most of you have heard this diatribe before, and I certainly am not disagreeing with the fact that women can be total psychopaths. But lets face it, by and large, unless they're armed, a woman doesn't usually pose a threat to your life. Yelling and being irrational doesn't really compare to being physically able to overtake somebody. Not to mention 90% of pedophiles are men, and presumably the majority of rapists as well.

I found a really awesome place to live this past summer, except I had to move after only two weeks of living there because my neighbor turned out to be a convicted rapist and had started harassing me. The only reason I didn't get raped was because of my uncle...of course, he's from a different generation, and I'm beginning to believe they don't make them like that anymore.

For the record, I'm not a lesbian. Women do nothing for me sexually. I do fantasize about men, just not men that actually exist in real life. I never go on dates, because I move a lot slower than most people, and everyone nowadays (women included) moves WAY too fast for me. Every date that I've been on (which admittedly isn't a lot) I either have no chemistry with the guy, and/or they ALWAYS try and fuck me on the first date...that's disgusting. I want a guy that has some standards about where he puts his junk, not try and fuck me when he doesn't even know me. Why, why, WHY does everything always have to come down to sex? Why am I always a means to some horny dude's end? It's not that I'm a prude...I just don't get physically turned on by strangers.

I know that it's wrong to feel this way, I know I hate men because it's easier than loving them...I'm just so uninspired to change right now, because my feelings keep getting reinforced by who I meet. And I don't even go to bars or clubs or other sleaze-magnet places. They always seem to find me.

Rant over.

 

where are your facts to back this up?

 

i wonder what the ratio of men to women that fit in this caterogy you speak of is, because ill admit i know exactly what your talking about.... i hold myself to a high moral standard and being that most of the people i know are young like me, i dont really know anyone else that does this... most of my friends do whatever they want whenever they want whenever they can, in many aspects of there life... i however wont let myself get away with things i can convince myself rationally is worth doing... like random drugs, sex, or lude and ignorant acts


it seems that there are alot more ignorant men then women, but since i have many more guy friends ill admit i know alot more men well then i know women, that may be the cause of the skew


anyway i hope you find what your looking for, there are a few out there... i think

 

bad luck.

there's loads of good men and women in this world. admittedly they can be few and far between, but if you are constantly focusing on the negatives then that's all you will find.

I'm really sorry about your place, I remember you posting about it all excited earlier this year. unfortunately, shit happens. all the time, to everybody.

also, I'll bet there are male characters in your life you have dismissed entirely, who could provide you with all the love and affection you want and make you happy. (though most probably won't fit into your idea of a "real" man)

 

I feel the same way about women, but I don't think its wrong to feel that way, it's just a natural reaction after being hurt.

The part were you said "I'm just so uninspired to change right now, because my feelings keep getting reinforced by who I meet"really hits close to home for me. The women I meet just keep reinforcing all the negatives I felt about them before, my girlfriend not excluded. I mean I love her and everything, as much as anybody can love anybody else, but at the same time its hard to love someone when resentment gets in the way and she is incapable of doing nothing but reinforcing the resentful sentiments.

But getting back to you orginal message, I think for now were both going to have to adapt to hating each other's gender and just do what we can to heal our emotional wounds in whatever way we can. Unfortunately most of that healing will prob. have to be done as a solo act, we're certainly not going to get much sympathy from members of the opposite gender and people of the same gender who may not share our kind of bitterness may not be very sympathetic either.

For me that's something I've become accustomed to, I'm getting used to being emotionally alone. Its an unfortunate place to find yourself in, but for me its the only option I have right now.

I sincerely hope you fare better in your emotional struggle.

 

wow.

how 'bout we look for the good in each other.

or at least keep to eating, humping, and leaving in the morning

 

plus . .people r people, so live your life, get hurt, get over it. do it again with the next one and so on

 

That's easier said than done, marbchic.

 

i'm trying as hard as i can...i been broken by boys and men, and it all happens for a reason. long as u learn something in the process

 

I've learned a lot in the process. I'm don't think everyhing I learned was all good stuff though. Learning can be good or bad.

 

ignorance is bliss..?



i dont think anything learned is bad, it all depends on what you get out of it

 

Much of what you’ve said is sadly true

Why, because it’s the obligation of every man to have sex with as many women as we can, and its that drive, that determination that often leads us astray.


BTW: Most of our problems stem from our relationship with our mothers, I suggest you women do a better job in raising your young and look at thy self

Hotwater

 

Hi Strawberry,
How about another male perspective?
I really couldn't agree with you more.
I grew up in a female dominated enviroment and raised two beautiful daughters, nothing pisses me off more than watching them have to deal with the typical male prick behaviour you are venting about. You have every right to be angry.
I'm sure I'll lose my street cred with the fellows here for this, but who cares. I have never had a relationship end that made me, even for an instant, hate the entire gender that is women, but have had many relationships with men (non-sexual) that ended with me having the same exact feelings you wrote down in this thread.
Men, including myself, have very base thoughts when it comes to sex, I know from reading this forum that women also can also be as base, but there is a huge difference. Most men would be happy to fuck a life size sex robot, no connection, no feeling, no performance anxiety, no tears etc... I'm not built that way and neither are most women. I always joke that I am a lesbian in a mans body, but it is true, although I identify as a non-practicing bi-sexual.
The good guys are out there, promise.

 

Good post dude!

I have 20 & 21 y.o. boys in college .... and keep a close eye out for the first sign that they are going to fall into that 95% group.

Strawberry - - don't give up on men ... but you'll have to work to find and hook up with the 5%. There's a lot of tough competition 'cause of the limited supply.

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You are one of the good ones man, if our sons only get parental guidance from their peers/TV/internet etc... when are they supposed to learn to be a man?
My 23 year old daughter was engaged to a punk singer (where she got the idea to date musicians, I'll never know, me being a rock drummer and all) who treated her like shit, on again, off again, cheating etc...She's a smart woman who finally got it and dumped his ass, of course, then opening the door for me to threaten his life if he ever came near her again.
Good guys are out there, just not easy to find.

 

Big Dan - - :cheers2:



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Freud's theories are hardly a science Hotwater.

 

I admit It’s a convenient explanation, but not entirely inaccurate


Hotwater

 

Wow...thanks everyone. I actually wasn't expecting people to be so understanding. I feel validated. I think the competition factor is what makes it so difficult. I have met really great guys, but someone else always meets them first.

I haven't given up entirely yet...I have my good days and my bad days. But because I don't do casual dating (or casual anything, when it comes to relationships), I think I come across as too intense for most people, even when I'm interested in them. Even when guys tell me I seem really laid back, I think they must feel that way because they don't really know me, lol.

Hotwater--I agree with you, although I think it can go both ways--even if a guy loves his mother, if there's no strong father figure in his life, he has no one to show him how to be a man, so he just has to make it up as he goes along. Of course, there's exceptions to this, but if I ever have sons I'm going to make sure they know how to treat women.

 

I'm beginning to think that cross-gender hatred is an evolutionary necessity. I hate women too (a lot of men do) - for the diametrically opposite reason cited by the OP: women put up to much resistance; and not just to sex but to any kind of interaction whatsoever.

But I understand women need to protect themselves at a subconscious level, because they are physically weaker and because of the possibility of pregnancy followed by abandonment.

I hardly ever enjoy spending time with women other than intimate moments (by intimate, I don't mean sexual- it could be watching a DVD and cuddling on the couch). The women I did like to hang out with were all decidedly tomboyish.

Men and women have opposite evolutionary priorities- and for that reason will go on hating each other.

I no longer think there is anything wrong with that---