Ok, I know my mom loves me and wants the best for me but sometimes it pisses me off to no end the things she flips out about or the way she talks down to me. I am 21 years old (turned it on oct 26th this year). I have a good job working at a pet store. The one morning, I wasnt feeling well. I worked as many hours as I could and asked to use the phone since I was feeling sick. I had a pounding migraine, almost puked three times, plus is work with disinfectant chemicals which made my head worse. In fact it was my boss's daughter (who is pretty much like the co-manager) who told me i better call for a ride since i felt sick. Well anyways I get home and take a nap for several hours. I wake up feeling refreshed and better. I crack open a beer and sit and chill and watch some tv. The beer actually helped with my head unlike the advil I found in the medicine cabinet. Anyways my mom comes home and starts flipping out with "Oh if you can drink a beer, why did you have to leave work." Excuse me, its my business whether I leave work early. Then she starts with "You better not get fired!". It was a one time thing. My mom is paranoid about every job in the world and thinks if you leave early cause your sick or call in sick, you'll automatically get fired. Excuse me for having a job where the boss cares bout his employees. Besides, its perfectly fine for my step dad to drink a beer (even several) even if hes sick. And I believe I am more mature than him when I drink. If I drink, I mind my own business and try to chill. He, on the other hand, if you get some in him, he starts flipping out and fighting with everyone and passing out while smoking a cigarette, almost setting the house on fire. It just angers me that my mom flips out over the stupidest shit. Even when I was younger, I couldn't miss school for more than 1 day even if I was really sick or else she said the truant officer would come and get me. I started to think that the truant officer was something made-up based on how many times she pulled that stunt. To make matters worse, my school labeled me as autistic because I don't talk to other kids too much. Um, excuse me, I'm NOT autistic. I'm just shy around others and have severe social anxiety. But god forbid I tell my mom I need benzos or else I might have to get drug counseling.
Sounds like you need to tell your mom to let you do what you need to do. You don't tell her what to do when shes sick. So just tell her to respect you If you can't just try and change the subject and she'll get the hint
I think she just does not want you to be like your step dad but cheers shit will look up just move out
