(Girls) Do you get off to humiliation?

OH YEA! I love to be sexually abused and humiliated in front of a bunch of people. im so down with all that.










that new thing called sarcasm.

 

It's not really sarcasm if you tell people you're doing it.

 

yea i know, but i just wanted to be clear on that one

 

Fair point, I suppose. I mean, this thread wouldn't probably exist if insane_jester had picked up on mine.

 

Try asking the guys. Not if they like to humiliate, but if they like to be humiliated.

 

And here was me thinking this thread was purely academic; you don't have to want to do them to ask the question. Besides, if I ask it'll look weird.

 

I like it... but there's definitely a line drawn between "fun" and "scary" and everyone's line is different. My current partner is the only one I can do this with, because he's the only one I've been able to trust to not take it too far. But why do I like it? It makes him seem strong... I love seeing his arm muscles bulge out of his arms while he's pinning me down, or throwing me on the floor... and after we're through, there's always some major cuddling time, to ensure that this kind of behaviour doesn't leak its way into our relationship. My man is not violent in his actual life though, that's the funny part. In the beginning I was all "you can be more rough than that, it's ok" lol ... does this help at all?? You can pm me if you want...

 

PS I voted "I'm not sure" because neither Yes nor No seemed to really fit my explanation...

 

I guess I might as well say this here rather than start a fresh thread: I feel the same way as I Super_Girl, cept most guys I've been with have been too pussy to do it. It's hard to explain why I prefer it, I think it probably goes back to that nesting instinct again; the need for someone to protect you.

 

humiliated or abused sexualy?

I guess it depends on the situation, in controlled simulated "games" i find very arousing the idea of humiliating and abusing or being humilitiaded and abused . NOt that i want humiliate no one in "real life" but its common sense that power and/or the lack of it does excites people. It's like jumping of a bridge with rope around your feet, i don't want really kill yourself nor does that shows you have suicide personality, you just want to experience the same feeling of jumping of a bridge without the consequences, just pretending.

I guess it all resumes to that, in a bedroom, beteween two people who really trust each other there is liberty to experience everything wihtout fear, it's gotta be fucking liberating...

(my) life sucks...

 

yeah but i think it would take the fun out of the game if you was like, "okay baby, i'm gonna start calling you names now, is that okay?" I think that you can tell the kind of girl that would enjoy being humiliated. The nose-in-the-air, played-hard-to-get-at-first, kind of high class girls you know? The ones that know that they're playin a facade and just want it to be broken down. Other girls, cute, adorable, making-love-to kind of girls, i don't think they'd enjoy being called names unless you was really into the relationship and just wanted to try something new. I don't know though, girls, would you honestly like the guy to ask you if he could call you names? Wouldn't you think that him doing it spontaneously and having the element of surprise make it a lot 'better'?

 

that is why i said "beteween two people who really trust each other..."

 

If someone called me a name in bed I would be putting my clothes back on. But once in awhile it is fun to tease someone all night and than when you finally give in to be held down and given what you wanted the whole night. But no if whoever I was with tried to intentionally himiliate me i don't think I would stay with them.

 

That's why i said before it was like bumgee jumping, you want experience that adrenalin rush that doing something dangerous gives you. It is the fact your are able to say and do things you would never do in normal conditions. Imagine the rise in your heart beat rise by calling your parter a bad name, it's all about how you direct that rush...

I can understand if a person does not even consider tho engage in such games, i have my own second toughts about it...

 

Ah humiliation I like. I like being called names and being slapped around a bit and i like the whole idea of being on my hands and knees doing everything at a guys comand. Torture ah yes torture i would love to be tourtured i like when im sexualy frusterated, when guys tease and humiliate me until i beg for them.

 

nah I can be quite kinky when it comes to being tied up and stuff like that but being called a name would not be cool at all and would turn me off-there would be no rush like you are talking about it. I would honestly probobly start to cry. That kinda crosses the line of playfully controling me in bed to really wanting to control me.

 

You can't be serious. Are you really generalizing an entire gender? Thats disgusting

 

Yes, yes I am. Disgusting, that is. I don't hate all women, but generally a good 99% of the time my prejudices are borne out. It doesn't bother me. I'd also say that most men are shallow, emotionally detached, insecure and ruled by bravado, but I love them too much.

 

Well ok, as long as you find stuff wrong both sexes I guess thats fine then

 

And for the subject of the thread, I think there are as many girls who llike to be dominated and humiliated as there are guys. I find it reeeeeealy sexy when a girl can be strong and dominant, teasing, name calling etc. But I also like to be on the other end of the spectrum to be the dominant one.

As the others have said, none of this outside of a sexual context though... Always follow up with lots of snuggling and soft kisses