I'm not the only one this has happened to...right?

This post is for both guys and girls.
A couple weeks ago, I made a post about anal sex with my gf, and how I really enjoyed it the couple of times we had done it, and she was really against it. I wanted to know what I could do to make it more enjoyable for her, and what I could do to open her up to trying it some more.
Well the next time I brought up trying some anal play as a first step, she said that she kind of regretted trying anal in the first place, and that she won't try it again.
I wasn't upset to hear that since it was the first thing that has ever been blacklisted in the bedroom for us. My question arises when I read these forums, and it seems to me that not even most, but all of the posters have this sexual world without boundaries.
I just want to know if there's anyone reading this who has gone through something like this. And if so, what did you guys move onto next, or how did you deal with it? Thanks.

 

There really isn't much you can do. Just try to accept the fact you are having sex (which is better than the alternative) and make her feel comfortable.

It has been my experience that anal sex comes in phases. Sometimes she wants it and sometimes she doesn't and there really isn't much I can do to encourage it (but there are definitely things I can do that discourage it!).

 

Our sexuality is very individual and it is unlikely that you and any sex partner that you will ever have are perfect matches.

Your first step is to acknowledge to yourself that she has as much right to her likes and dislikes as you have to yours. There is no right or wrong here …. but often times there are poor matches.

Absolutely STOP trying to get her to do anything to please you! Start focusing on finding what you can do to please her. Not just one thing and then say, “I bought you roses, now you have to let me fuck you in the ass.”

Pretend that you really do want to please her and accommodate her differences …. and after awhile it may actually happen. If and when it does she is likely to reciprocate.

Continued pressure from you will only cause her to get in the habit of saying “NO!” to you.

 

umm, interesting how you said 'pretend' that you really do want to please her

 

The O.P. seemed to be more concerned with getting his GF to please him than with pleasing her.

If he does a good job of pretending that his main concern is pleasing her, then it may come to pass that he actually starts to put her pleasure ahead of his own.

Pretending is a poor substitute for the real thing, but if used properly can easily lead to the real thing.

 

I don't like anal frequently either. Sometimes we just need breaks. However, if she doesn't like it and you keep pressing I can promise you that it will never happen again.

 

I have been through this a couple of times with girls who have a conservative and or very religious background. Eventually the relationship is history. When I'm with my next girlfriend and listening to her whisper in my ear to take my huge, hard dick and slide it into her tight asshole a thought goes through my mind later - "Why was I sweating that last girl who wasn't into the same things I am!"

 

Dude, if she is not on the same page with you sexually, there will be problems, as evidenced by your account. Quite frankly, I'd leave her because if she won't fulfill my sexual needs, I'll find another girl who will.

You need to find an anal whore. Fine one and you'll be happy.

 

It's already been said but I agree. Everything isn't for everyone. Just don't impose your will on her or begrudge her for being honest.

 

Anal sex?! Ew!

There's a perfectly good spot just to the North, wetter but with less mud.

 

from my experience, anal sex is a very personal, sensitive thing for girls. the barrier between a painful experience and a pleasurable experience can be based on how the situation arises. if its unexpected and slightly coerced, like in the middle of a session, and you ask and she's like "well, ok" it'll probly be uncomfortable and leads to the girl feeling like a piece of meat. but if you are calm about it and communicate ahead of time that it is something that would really turn you on, she might be willing to do it to satisfy you. and if it comes about in an open, loving manner, that tabboo/dirty feeling of buttsex can actually be interpereted as a pleasurable thing. I think for girls its sensitive because it is a very rough, physical experience but one that many girls would only do with someone they are very close to. if the experience goes bad, it can feel like being hurt (literally) by someone you love. all im sayin is if you go to her like "all these people do it can't we do it!?" and she feels pressured, she won't enjoy it and in the long run neither will you

 

o yeah and also you gotta make it fair, go down on her for like 20 minutes before hand and don't be a pussy and be afraid to tounge or finger her asshole cuz if that's too gross for you, then you got no right puttin your dick in there. show her how it can feel good first

haha, thats my two cents

 

You guys are completely rediculious, she said she wouldn't do it. To tell him to keep pressuring her into something she doesn't want to do is just plain stupid. This type of thing can ruin a relationship and if anal is more important then that then what are you doing with her. Also Mr. OH! if a guy slipped his dick in my ass when we were having sex "accidentally" I would turn around and slap him. You need to ask premission before you do something like that to someone you don't just do it, cause you want to. Jeez, its like some guys could care less about what their partner wants.

Tiffany

 

It’s been said already … but it gets lost in all the trash!