Well, I had a dream, and I'm scared to talk to any of my friends about it, so I've turned to the interwebs. So, in waking life, I'm 19, and I just transferred to the same college that my best friend (for ten years) goes to. Last year, she was with this guy who is still one of her close friends. I've become pretty good friends with him too. Well, anyway my best friend (Becky) is completely over this guy (Dustin), and dating someone else. So, now that we've got all of that straightened out, the dream. Becky, Dustin, our other friend John and I were going on a vacation. Not sure where, but there was a beach, and I had never been there before. Becky and I were staying in the room next to Dustin and John's, and John and Becky had gone downstairs to find a restaurant to eat at. I went into the boys' room, where Dustin was laying on his bed. I laid down next to him and he started kissing me in the sweetest way - it was really vivid and I still feel all warm and happy and in love when I think about it. Then, we had sex. It was somehow completely liberating - like everything I don't like about myself suddenly became something I loved about myself. Afterwards, I said something about how we should probably let Becky and John know, and he said we shouldn't tell them, because he was afraid that they'd both react badly. I really wanted to tell Becky, because I've never kept anything from her, but he somehow convinced me that it was a bad idea. We went down to eat dinner with the other two, and I just knew that Becky knew. For some reason, I wasn't upset, more just annoyed that I couldn't tell her about it. I know we did other things, but I don't remember what. We had sex again, and that's when I woke up. So, now I'm kinda confused because I have a.) all this newfound self-confidence, and b.) feelings for Dustin that are annoying. All because of a dream! Also, I'm a little freaked out that it was so easy for me to lie to the one person I cannot lie to. I don't understand this dream on so many levels
Hi soundandfury, here is a thought. I think the dream brought some hiding guilt feelings to the surface that you wanted to look at and work on. So, imagine all the friends in your dream came for your assistance only and ask you to look deeper inside yourself, thus to go beyond any self judgement or judgement of others. Sex in dream is about communication. It does not mean that you are necessarly coming together with the best friend in 'real life'. It is just a way of self expression ... one of many. Also keep in mind how the others react is theirs to do - not yours. Sometimes the liberation of self comes along with recognizing we can change by letting go our own reactions, and not depend on how others think about us. Waking life surely has a way to trigger dreams, but also dreams have their own stubborn way to keep us in touch with ourselfes ... which is wonderful. Hope this makes sense.
