I am 15 years old and I have been friend with a guy named Bryan for about three years. I’ve always know that I’ve had weird feelings for him that I didn’t have for my other friends, but I tried not to think about them and ignore them. Now that I’ve started my sophomore year I can’t stop thinking about my feelings and it’s really beginning to bother me. Bryan and I hang out a lot at my house so we get to spend LOTS of time alone. Whenever I’m with him I tend to be more gentle and quiet. We talk about our feelings a lot and we usually end up getting really close to each other. When my friend has a problem he wants to talk about with me I always let him lean against me or I just hold him in my arms and let him talk. Does this make Bryan and I gay, or is it something else? We've never had sexual desire for each other, but whenever I'm around him I have butterflies in my stomach. Uggh, I just really need opinions right now.
sounds like it could be. only you know... are you attracted to him? if so, don't be afraid to admit it to yourself... then you can move on from there. if you're not attracted to him in that way (and trust me, you know when it's "that way"), then you're not gay.
There's a very thin line between being close friends and lovers, knowing when or when not to cross it is hard. Sometimes simple physical affection is just a means to feel closer to a person or feeling secure, it doesn't necessarily mean your gay, it could just mean your close. The whole subject is complicated because it full of possibilities and outcomes. I guess for now the thing to do is ask yourself what are your reasons and motives behind holding him? Do you simply wish to comfort him? Or do you wish for these events to lead onto something more and are too shy to say? Are you physically attracted to him? or do you simply feel close to him emotionally? You can't really tell if he's gay/bi/whatever, he just might like being comforted by a trusted companion, however you can at least try to anylise yourself. Just so you know, if you do find yourselves attracted to eachother, there's nothing wrong with it, you don't need to label yourselves or change your behavior in any way to fit in with a stereotype. Just be yourself.
