i met this guy through my friend. its her boyfriend's friend, well best friend. so us 4 start hanging out more and more and me and him start liking another. we have many things in common and he says im a pretty girl and such. one thing....its his 'girlfriend' none of his friends like her because she cheats on him. he cant seem to get it through his head to break up with her. i told him all the consequences being with a cheater and it wasnt goin to be pretty. his friend really likes me and begs me to try to get him to stop thinking about her. I did everything. made him laugh, said romantic things to him, made him feel comfortable. but it wasnt working. he says give him time but heres a twist. i met another guy also, that i went out on a date with and had a great time. and kevin (first guy) knows rob (2nd guy) and i didnt know that. so i got kevin's friend and kevin telling me hes a douche bag and i got rob telling me that they dont know him. I leaned toward rob cause he has no recent background. but im closer to kevin cause i talk to him constantly. when rob, maybe texts me back every 45 mins. im stuck and kevin's stuck. Im being impatient right now because i really want someone in my life. I think kevin and smile but im afraid getting together with him, might be a problem and i think rob and i feel relieved but im gonna have trust issues with him cause hes a partier and a flirter. ugh
Damn, too much convoluted drama shit if you ask me, hahah. I say screw it and just have fun. But I'm pessimistic on relationships, heheh. I guess if you want a real opinion on the matter... I say forget the Kevin kid cause he's showing some self-problems not being able to leave someone who is cheating on him and still being clingy. And I have a gut feeling that the Rob guy probably is a douche. Just my 2 cents .
lol thanks for the advice! i love your last sentence. cause its what kevin says about him. update about it= i hung out with kevin today and not once has he been talking to his 'girlfriend' as his friend says and i noticed that hes been getting closer to me because he was holding me and was walking next to me and kept glancing at me which he never did before. so it could be working. with rob, im thinking he is a douche. hes a party animal and i cant stand that. esp when he doesnt even invite me. i hate parties anyways but i like the way its going for now. I love being single but i do miss the thoughts and kisses of another every now and then
it sounds to me like a.) you desire a deep, emotional connection with someone rather than a one week long fling. this means the "partier" should be avoided. i think if you go with him, you will have lots of fun but he will hurt you in the end. the first guy sounds like a better fit for you (atleast in my opinion) because it sounds like respects woman...even if it is at his own expense. Through time with a steady relationship, this will begin to fade away tho (using his own expense for approval of his gf)...but i still feel like he may be a "better" individual than the partier (and you said it yourself you dont like partiers)....plus i think someone like that may have a harder time showing their feelings, which is why its hard for him to break up with his gf that is cheating, and also harder for him to show his feelings for you (which he is now doing? so he obviously likes you..)....or you could just go looking for someone else if you just dont have any chemistry with the first guy (sometimes happens...)
you might be right. the first guy is a better fit for me. I talked to the 'partier' and asked if he had any intensions to ask me out again and he said i dont know. i just wanna stay friends. i expected that from him. from the beginning i was clueless in why he was interested in me, hes that fly high type of guy. the first guy, ended it with his girl yesterday, after her calling him and saying "i cant see myself loving you anymore" and left him for another. which is what i told him what would happen if he stayed with her. I talked to him today and he said he wanted a platonic relationship with me, i dont mind that at all
