A question for those of you with experience.

I'm a 19 year old living in Saskatoon, Canada and I am having a hell of a time coming to terms with my own life. I have loving parents who I can openly talk to but I don't think they get where I am coming from. Although they are relatively wealthy and I have always been well provided for I have the urge to leave, to walk out my door with a pack and find a simple life in which I am truly happy. I am truly not content with my life, even though I am content with the people in it. I am torn between what I have been told to do my entire life and what I feel that I must do for myself and I don't know how to tell the people I love that I want to drop everything to find myself. I am having a really hard time with this and I guess I just needed to ask someone with some years behind them. Any guidance, experience, or hippie love would be much appreciated. Much love.

 

You are the perfect age to have an adventure. If at all possible go for it. It sucks to have regrets later on down the road. Just don't drop it like a bombshell, make it seem "tame" and not too big a deal. And plan ahead well so you have some idea what you are getting into.

 

i never know what to tell people who say they can't find their self. when was the last time you saw it and retrace your steps from there

 

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i kinda know were u are coming from , my self i have had to find my self over the past years since my fathre pased away . back in 1999 when he passed my world was turned upside down i didnt know my self then or what i would do . but i moved to a new state and from there i learned that sometimes it is best to go with the heart . to this day i feel more like a gypsy beucase i am stay at home wife , my husband works at a dead end job . but that is fine as long as u are happy with what will come and see that there will be stumbling blocks in your way . i found my self while i was traveling acrose the US . i found my soul on a Reservation. then when i moved to south Dakota i had that recomfermed . and when i got to florida it was set. then i move back to VA were i am now and i feel that life is not about the rules that are made by society but by the indivduals that want to change it . i study and live on the Lakota Red Road, i study other religons just so i know that i am well rounded . and as long as at the end of the night i know that it is all for what i belive in my heart to be good then i go with it .

srry for the long spel but u see all i am trying to say is that seeing new things opens u up to new things . and some times it opens ur soul, like with my self , i hope i helped some

 

Your parents provided you with life and a home, and hopefully with the idea and beliefs that, after that, it is your life. I would hope they are not dictating where your life should go, and are letting your find out for yourself.

I'm always amazed at parents who complain about why their children don't learn from the parents mistakes. That doesn't even make sense. Children, or anyone, just don't have any frame of reference based on someone elses experiences. We are here for just one reason.. to learn from our own experiences.

You are at a perfect time in your life to do just that, since you don't have any real ties holding your back. Don't let someone elses needs and guilt influence you. You really can't get an idea of what you want to do with your life until you get some experience about life. If that means a backpack and setting out on journey, then I hope you go for it, and I hope your parents give their blessings.

 

Aye, I know the feeling my friend. I have the same situation and had the same find myself feeling I moved away to another town. Had the time of my life for a few years found myself then came back

Id say do it and make sure they understand.

 

A bird ready to fly?

I believe what you are feeling and going through is natural for your age. I remember when I left home back in 1968.No way seemed good. My parents did not understand either.

I would encourage you to be kind and loving to them. Explain to them you need to start your journey on this planet as an adult.Have a plan or even time limit for your first excursion.I would add be cautious.but not paranoid, it's a different world than it was back in the 60s.

I slept places, hung out and hitched rides .Things I'd never do now, especially as a woman.The world is alot darker, in areas and in that you will probubaly appreciate your family even more.

Your parents may appear to not understand your need to "find yourself" But all of us have a life journey that only we can find, no one can do it for us.Your parents will know this as truth deep down inside.

The main struggle they will probably have is they love you. They want to protect you. When you are away and not under their roof it takes faith to let you go and know you will grow and learn and be ok. Giving them a call off and on to reassure them you are alright will help them.

And I believe the journey of finding yourself is life long.

All of Lifes a real trip! Not all easy or good, but try to see the positive as you go through lifes experiences , learn from your mistakes, enjoy it, yet also"be smart",

If things are going to fast in your spirit, listen ,drop back, chill a little , than move on and be thankful! "God bless and enjoy!