Was just curious as to how many dead heads that use the forum are swingers? I am actually extremely curious as to how many swingers actually have dreadlocks, but this forum will do.
how do you define swingers? its such an arbitrary term thrown around to cover a broad spectrim of people that irs basicly meanningless what exactly are you asking how many dreadies are easy and would jump into bed with ysa if u asked/ if you mean polyamerouse then thats maybe a more clear distinction so would be sexualy advernteropuse so would unfaithful but the term swingers very rarely actualy is used properly i know a few of the people here are polyamerouse 1 or 2 are disartisfied in theyre relationships so look for excitement outside it i only know of 1 who clasifies herself as a swinger but i doubt veru much if shed fit inside your definition.. sexuality is broad ranged and fluidic and not easily defined, even with over 150 different terms for differences in sexuality theyre still too constraining to fit properly i wonder what your purpose in this thread was since swinging and dreads are so totaly unrelated.. several dreads i know could only be clasified as asexual.. theyre only interest lies in spirituality and purest love with virtualy no interest in sexyality to wonder about any coorelation between dreads and sexuality is a waste and all i can think of is its an excuse to see who would be most likely to be easy targets for sexual asdvances
I see what you mean, and you're right. The way I am using the term swingers could be people in open relationships with others, people that also go both ways with sex, etc. Wouldn't mind if this thread was deleted because some aren't really open on the subject.
I've never been able to stay in a monogamous relationship for long, so I've always just gone with the flow...and it works out beautifully this way despite the criticism I get for it on this board.
yeah for some reason people think it's immoral. I disagree, and think it's a beautiful thing to be able to have many sexual partners as long as everyone is clean.
well, let's see. i would say that i'm "open" and that my long-term partner and i are in a potentially "open" relationship, though it hasn't happened "for real" at this point. i've always had some trouble being monogomous, as i had/have some serious personal issues that have/are making it difficult to be truly myself and truly open with another person. so i have been a "swinger" but most of my partners haven't known about it. i am not proud of this fact. on the other hand, i think it is quite natural, beautiful, and loving to have open, polyamorous relationships as long as all parties involved are part of good communication, and open loving actions towards each other. BUT, i think it is quite difficult, with all of the societal training we have had, to be, and find others who are, completely desiring of this kind of lifestyle. though i like the idea of it and am a very sexual person, i am intensely happy in my primary relationship at this time, and am not desiring of anything in addition or outside of it. it has taken me almost 2 years to realize this about myself and this relationship, lol!!! am i open to being "open"? oh yes. am i right now? well... if a situation with a person/persons came up that just felt PERFECT for our relationship and our situation, sure, i'd be happy about it. am i looking for it right now? no. hope that answered your question a little.
i've been in 3 even 4 way relationships and ive been in 1 on 1 relationships trust me the more complicated u make it the more likely it'll turn out disasterouse i'm awlways openminded in everyuway but whatever woeks best works for me
Call me old fashioned...but uh...having sex with multiple partners while in a so called relationship?!....eeeew. Do you wanna get STD's? Have multiple babies daddys? No friggin thanks. I understand the free love mentality behind it all.....Im a lover too...but in this day and age I dont think thats cool. Thats just my two cents for whatever its worth!
nice picture stalk!!! and mandy... when i say i am open and like the idea of having multiple relationships, i mean between a loving group of people who loves each other. i'm a lesbian, so i wouldn't have "multiple baby's daddies" but if i wasn't, i don't see what's "wrong" with that, if they are people you love and trust, and can continue to get along with when/if the relationship chooses not to continue. as can be said for anyone i would want to have kids with. my current partner (who is a guy... long story, lol) and i hope to one day have children, but without marriage or any wierd commitment to stay together forever. but we trust each other enough to be honest, and to remain friends if our romantic relationship should end. that's what i would want from anyone i have a sexual relationship with at this point in my life. it hasn't always been that way, and it HAS been disastrous. as for stds... no unprotected sex with someone who hasn't been recently tested... plain and simple.
Tim and I meet once a month in Chicago when hes goes away on those long 'business trips' from some passionate one on one man love at the downtown Bed and Breakfast. there. I said it!
dammit dean... how did you know i have fantasies about you two hooking up?! hmmmm... videotape it next time for me please?
oh i'm totally lesbian... i'm just gay through and through. i think it's much hotter to have people of the same sex together than people of different sexes. makes more sense to me, lol! and i knew you had to be an inner lesbian... otherwise how would you be with zilla? she's leztastic!
hey, im with ya. Some people prefer Taco Bell, while others enjoy drive thru at Wienerschnitzels zilla + nakedtreehugger = :drool5:
