Pleasure during non-orgasmic sex.

OK, I an open-minded and experienced lover, and I understand completely that not all women can achieve orgasm. And within that reality, not orgasmic women achieve the Big O every time.

So I'm wondering: If you're rolling in the hay with your guy, when have you had enough? Do you want to keep going for 30-45 minutes? Now, I know usually it's the man who runs out of gas, but there are those of us (I'm one) who can re-energize quickly and am ready to go within a few minutes of climax. Could you/would you want to keep at it, even though you know you'll never orgasm yourself?

 

it really depends on how great the sex is. orgasming isnt everything. id think most women love just the feeling of being penetrated so ya, she'd probably be up for it again and again til her legs got sore.

 

To refine the question, when is a non-orgasmic woman satisfied? I guess it all comes down to communication. I've always been an advocate of "verbal" sex.

 

after being on the recieving end of non orgasmic sex for the best part of 28 yrs now i can tell you it certainly isnt great at all, in fact it can become like yet one more thing to do for someone else, i.e. another job!!! how can you look forward to doing something that feels of nothing much at all other than being poked and prodded and rubbed and gropped? and then tell me that all of that feels great, would you eat plain old sponge cake for the rest of your life while others where getting the icing? nope you wouldnt so tell me why i should carry on the way things are?

 

I guess that's what I'm asking...lots of women enjoy sex, even though they don't achieve orgasm. I want to know how, if there's no icing, how to make the spongecake better. And, I guess, when to quit making spongecake, too.

Apparently, there's no pleasure at all in it for you, right? What about oral or manual stimulation/masturbation? Nothing?

I, personally, find great satisfaction in pleasing my partner. That can be a challenge, as you know. Oral, a backrub, even giving her a bath. Whatever it takes.

 

oral and anything else all ong that line is pointlees as its simply him licking bits of me, or poking other bits, hes been down there for hrs and stillnothing i dont even have anything to tell him to do more of as i just dont know what he actually does down there, i simply cant tell

as for a back rub or bathing me resulting in an orgasm!!!! i doubt that seriously do

 

A wise man once advised me, "If you argue on behalf of the obstacles, they're yours to keep." Sounds like you're pretty convinced there's no pleasure in it, and there's nothing that will work.

It goes without saying that the most important sex organ is the mind.

PS. The bath/backrub thing was just my thought about being intimate; not really sex.

 

i would dearly love for someting to happen that i could feel and recognise as being nice during sex but it has never happened and for the life of me i dont have a clue as to how to change that. only thing that i can think of that i can feel is to have my feet rubbed that is 100s better than sex for me

 

Farbeit for me to give any lectures or advice on intimate relationships. But if sharing my thoughts and experiences help you or anyone looking in on this conversation, it's worth it.

It took me years to understand this, even after it was explained to me. Just a typical thick-headed male ego, I guess. Anyway, I learned that before I could actually let go and love someone else, I need to learn to love myself. That involves accepting me for my wrinkles and warts, forgive myself for failures and transgressions, and be self-intimate. Now, that sounds like I'm talking about beating off all the time, but that's not it.

Being alone with myself, for example, was tough to do. No TV, no phone, no wandering fantasies; just me and my life. In my particular case, I needed to exercise (jog) to get my head clear and begin to become more self-aware. So many of us are distracted by the giftwrapping of our lives that we never really get in touch with ourselves.

Any of this ring true?

 

i spend the best part of a day, every day alone, i see no one or talk to no one i hate it, im bored to tears most days, then when they all com ehome im even more alone then too, they talk about stuff that i don tunderstand or have any interest in. so yes i have plenty of alone time, if thats what you call getting in otuch with yourself then great yeah i have i know what every day will be

 

LMAO.

 

whats so funny?

 

You.Im proud of you for not giving up.

 

its nothing to be proud about at all, its worse than imprisonment but its within your self,

 

can or have you been able to stimulate yourself sexually in any pleasurable way?

 

She has tried EVERYTHING!!!

 

i have tried and its was as successful as tickling yourself!! so the answer is no it felt of nothing at all, i would rather have had a scratch!!! in fact no it was as good as rubbing the end of my nose

 

I wish I could lick myself...lol

 

im glad i cant!!! what a waste of a talent it would be

 

Wow, that's pretty sad. No pleasure at all when being fucked?

I mean, I always have to rub myself in order to orgasm when I'm being fucked, but there's still much pleasure, even if I don't orgasm-always. No pleasure at all during sex? Why in the hell do you have sex then, if I may ask?