well ive been friends with her nearly two years,well we became good friends and i started to like her and i think she likes me too,but im not sure about it,what signals do i have to look for?
Don't worry about all the signal crap. Just ask her out. If she goes for it she likes you if not then life goes on.
If you've been friends with her for two years and she hasn't made any indication that she wants to jump your bones, she probably has you classified as a "just friends" person. Next time you are hanging out with her, ask this in a very casual tone " How come we never thought to go on a date? You and me?" Now there can only be a small number of responses to this question and I will give you them and how to gauge them as far as your chances of dating her. "I don't know." If you get this response with no further response then you are doing pretty good. This means she doesn't object to it and it is not too late for you to move the relationship from the friends stage to the dating stage. Feel free to continue after this response with a "Well maybe we should try it out. If we find after a few dates it doesn't work we can just be friends." Or you can do the smooth move of "Maybe we should try kissing to see if there is chemistry between us." If she doesn't object then she has been thinking of you in this way also. "Well,blah,blah, blah, I didn't want to ruin the friendship" Anything with the words "didn't want to ruin the friendship" in it means she is not physically attracted to you, or not enough to warrant dating you. She might have been at one point, but after getting to know you she has decided there are better prospects out there and wants to keep you as her friend and nothing more. DO NOT PROCEED WITH THE CONVERSATION. Drop it if she says this, or respond with a "Yeah, I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship either." Basically you got a stop sign, do not pass go, do not collect $200. You might as well set your sites on some other chick, cause this one's ship has sailed. "Well, I never really thought of you as a potential boyfriend." Or any variation on this statement. This is a toss up statement. It could mean she is slightly attracted to you, or very attracted to you, and has low self esteem and never thought you would be attracted to her. Or it could mean she has other prospects out there that she finds more attractive than you and she is aiming to keep her options open...i.e your the fall back person. The signs of low self esteem would be she gets shy about it, blushes, looks down away from you, or seems slightly nervous. If she doesn't exhibit these things than it is the other option and you might as well not count on dating this girl unless you like being the consolation prize. Good luck. Puss
