Around my family and friends Im as loud as I want to be and I say what I want to say. Where as when Im in class I usually stay by myself and I hate getting up in front of tons of people and speaking. In highschool I use to stay home those days and then make it up later when it was just me and the teacher. I get this weird feeling in my stomach and my face gets all red. I hate it. I hate being so shy. Any ideas on what I can do? dont even say picture them in their underwear. Peace & Love
honestly. its going to take sometime. i was always DEATHLY afraid of speaking in large groups or around strangers. you just gotta throw yourself out there full-force and stay calm! take some deep breaths before you speak. you can do it, i did it~!
first you have to figure out what part of it your actually scared of trust me i used to be the same way! i took drama and i am so good at hiding my emotions so people dont really know that im terrified and that so much is going through my head i dont blush but ive learned not to be scared sometimes i feel an embarassed feeling i think the way i got out of it was with my style last year i thought fuck the world! i wore whatever i wanted with pride first alright im talking rainbow knitted sweaters with hearts all on it a 12 year old sweater i got at the thrift store some flowered overalls these flowered bellbottoms just all sorts of crazy clothes some people loved me for it and other people just wouldnt understand and their just like "oh dat guhl drezz crazi" well i dont know, i feel like ive become a lot bolder because of that i know i have a bad reputation and most people dont look at me for what i really am just by what they see and hear because i dont talk to people i dont know much but now if anyone talks to me i act as if its a new start, not knowing that they might have heard or what they think about me and so when i get into big groups of people i dread what i dread and im content with what im doing when i feel confident just put yourself into everything you do and have nothing to be embarassed about humble yourself but dont be scared of other people just remember they will never have the knowledge in the same way that you contain it and value that your special, know that they are too but be happy your not them
if you really wish you would say something in a group of people regardless the size. have confidence in yourself and tell it how you feel. you'll be glad later. if not you learn something and try again.
Nothing wrong with being shy. I'm shy and I have no desire to change that. Not interested in public speaking so I figure why should I learn to do it well? You should maybe consider the same. There's nothing to improve, trust me. You're good to go.
i used to be shy, but i befriended the complete opposite of shyness, and weve been best friends for 13 years, but she got me out of my shell, i would try new things, and just being around a person thats in the middle of the crowd all the time helps you get used to it, and then the next thing you know, your grabbing ppls attention and not even thinking about it.
no offense i was like this too i dont know if i am still like this but its seems you open up more when your not under pressure of things like school making sure you get things right and all so you dont look dumb or seem dumb towards people or look like a fool but when that pressure is gone go out to someplace public like the bar easier to talk to people this way when some sort of work schedules not in the way but this is probably not good advice because if you listen to what i just said it sounds like i am trying to make you drop out of school
