me and my ex broke up 4 months ago and for the first two months we didnt talk much at all, but since school started we started to talk more and more and im really starting to have feelings for her again. she seems to like me, and im pretty sure she knows i like her back but right now she says shes not emotionally ready right now especially because we are nearing the UC deadlines for college. shes stressed and im stressed and i dont want to make things awkward between us again. is this just naive high school emotions or what
Emotions are emotions no matter what your age, just because you are in high school it doesn't invalidate your emotional standing. Best thing to do, if you want a relationship with her, is aim for just friendly interactions...maybe offer a hang out session after finishing a certain number of college apps, like a coffee break or something. Don't bring up your dating past, or your currently relationship desires. The key to a good relationship is friendship, and the way to be a friend doesn't involve getting in each other's pants, or going on "dates." Just be an ear to listen to rants, to share in happy and sad times, and a shoulder to cry on. When you are those things, women can't resist getting closer. You have to realize that even if you were "dating" the relationship might end when college approval letters come in. Then the anguish of going to different colleges can be difficult to deal with through the last semester of school. It is better to kindle the flames of friendship during this period of your life with this girl, then maybe you'll get lucky and both go to the same school, or keep in touch and be in similar places in life after college. Never know. Puss
we talk a lot more and we see each other almost everyday afterschool, she hints that she likes me through her actions and not her words =/, i cant hangout with her alone becuase it is still "awkward" for her, but yet we do tihngs that we rarely did while we were together. maybe im just blind, but it seems that when we do hangout her attention is all on me, and when she turns to talk to someone else i feel left out and hurt. i cant let this keep on happening =/ what should i doo? are there any signs to watch out for?
Don’t know what you should do, but I know what I would do if I were in your situation. First I’d back off a whole lot. It’s becoming an obsession! Take a look at yourself instead of focusing on her. You’re making yourself crazy! I’d take her to the side one day soon …. ask her to just listen for a minute without interrupting … not more than a minute. I would tell her something like this, “I want our relationship back, but I don’t want to pressure you. It’s making me crazy being around you so much without being with you, so I’m going to have to stay away a little …. and I just wanted you to not think that I’m losing interest in you.” That’s it … no sales pitch …. nothing more. If she wants to be with you in the future, she’ll let you know without any guessing or looking for “secret signs.” Good luck, have fun, and play safely!
