I am the worst mother on earth

I understand. It's okay though, you just have nerves and need to learn how to control them. Maybe we can learn that together!

 

cool.

You guys have been very kind. I'm feeling better.

 

:wank:

 

exactly

more like a lively waste of time

 

I just did that too!

But if you are gonna display disrespectful behaviour, I am gonna tell you to get out of my face. THey are both being buttheads today.

 

I think you are a great mom. You prob have a lot of pressure on you to feel as if you have to be perfect because of the field both you and your husband work in.

I don't think it is wrong to occasionaly yell at or spank your kids, but some people here are disgusting me. Hitting your kids with objects or giving them a negative connotation with physical exercise is abuse. Hitting your kids with anything other than your hand in the state of California is illegal and you will be investigated. I also think having your kid stand in the corner is demeaning and cruel.
Having them go to their room (wthout video games tv and all that crap) so they can calm down is much better. Having them go for a jog with you to get negative energy out it healthy-but using it as punishment is wrong...just sooo wrong.
Some of the things I reccomend to parents is signing their kids up to do shitty volunteer work, like picking up trash on the road, or washing police cars or taking EVERYTHING away and making them earn it back.
I am not allowed to reccomend spanking to the families I work with, but if my kid ran in the road or did something dangerous I would have no problem with Andy doing it.

 

so you support spanking kids..where this big adult is hitting a small child, sometimes even on pure impulse and aggravation..
but you think exercise and standing in a corner is cruel?

 

I don't think anyone should ever spank their kid out of aggravation. I am talking-your kid runs in the street and you swat them once or twice when they are too young to understand the severity of danger. Things like that.

 

i'm all about the idea of pre-beating

 

I had the feeling that the people discussing severe punishment were just trying to get a rise out of other, so I personally ignored it.

Point being, my kids are too old for swats on the butt, but too mouthy for my mental health.

 

oh I have a mouthy one as well

must be like their mamas huh

 

oh yesssssssss. *rolls eyes* It is my fault ...maybe that's why I'm so pissed off. Once they hit puberty it's all downhill, then they act exactly like you as a teenager.

 

I know....fuck the economic situation....I've got a situation of a little Marie in a couple years. Damn.

 

I notice Fitzy still talks about the ever so controversial pre-beatings.

 

omfg, you sound like Andy. He was hit as a child (not often or anything horrible), so he figures all people should hit their kids to keep them in line.Not if they come out of my body homeboy.I am pretty middle of the line in regards to parenting. I don't think parents should let their kids mouth off, but I don't think you should smack them for it.There's no need to hit a child after they can communicate verbally and have enough cognition to understand why all their crap is being taken away from them. Plus, especially with daughters, you have to be careful. Their dad is what they hold other men to. Prime example, my mom. My grandpa smacked my mom in the face everytime he thought she was being disrespectful, from when she was a kid until she was 18. My dad was very abusive. I think if my grandfather were more reasonable and not so harsh my mom would have picked much healthier relationships.

 

Yeah my parents tried that with me. Didn't work. A quick swat always got my attention and then they would tell me why I deserved the punishment. Taking stuff away from me as a teenager never worked either. I didn't care if they took my tv, told me I couldn't drive, or took all of my music or books.

This blaming parents for crap really gets to me. My dad slapped me silly one night. Do I date abusive men? Fuck no. If a guy ever hits me I'll tack his nuts to a chair with a fork. Quit blaming other people. (Not just you, everyone that likes to blame)

 

I was afraid of dad, now dad is afraid of me, shit happens.

 

i'm going to be an old man some day and i'll bring this topic up on this forum, with all the newbies around and what not and i'll tell them the days of the good ol pre-beatings - then they'll wonder "wtf" and i'm going to bring up that thread and show them. and the idea of pre-beating will be passed onto another generation

 

as long as you don't foget about "sneaking a charlie"
(which I just did)