It's maybe the 3rd time she has called trying to reach me. She is so sweet in her voicemail, "Just wanted to check in on you and see how you are, kiss your girls for me." I really thought she and i may become friends, we really hit it off. I can't bring myself to talk to her, so I e-mailed her I don't know if she even checks her e-mail, I guess we'll see. Hi Mecca. I haven’t been able to bring my self to call you back. I think it may be easiest if you just take a look at my blog. The Dreadlocked Mess Momster M A M A M O J O Basically, I recently learned that putting wax in my hair was counterproductive to establishing dreads. I also found out after spending over $200 that dreadlocks should never cost anything more than your time, patience, and commitment. I also learned that the micobraiding and twisty crap that was done to my hair to help “start” the locks was completely counterproductive. I’ve come to terms with it and even though it takes anywhere from 45min to an hour to unravel one, I am slowly but surely taking them all down. The parts that are braided can never dread, it’s impossible. The braids will create weak spots in the dreads, and braiding isn’t dreading, can not help hair dread, and is an absolute mess with wax on top. Some friends actually are helping me from time to time, thank God because there are 57 locks. My head is a complete mess! As I unbraid and untwist the locks I find fuzz and grossness that was trapped by the massive amounts of wax. I don’t think that you intentionally advised me wrong. You have a great nature and I truly feel that you had the best of intentions. That being said, you were still wrong. And here is it 5months later and I sit with a crazy head still full of wax in some parts. I should have done more research before agreeing to your starting method, that I realize. But you presented yourself as a professional so I trusted you. Have you ever seen anyone else’s head that you started this way later down the road? I have cried and worked and worked on my hair and cried some more. I feel like I was ripped off. I wasted money on something that a little time and patience could have brought me. For what it’s worth, the only acceptable way to start dreads are to A. wash them as usual (with a residue free shampoo – Like Bronner’s) do not brush and separate accordingly. B. Separate and backcomb them Or C. Rip and twist method I just prayed she wouldn't answer and I called her...I was able to leave a voicemail telling her she could see how things are going by checking out my blog and that I sent an e-mail to her Yahoo! account.
I'm glad you sent the much needed feedback. I'm interested in seeing what he response is, if any. Good luck with your hair. I know, it must be a terrible violated feeling when someone fucks up your hair that bad. It will work itself out in the end though. Good luck. I can't wait to see some real progress.
Its all you gal, you can get mad all you like because your loctician didnt know shit. But you didnt do your part. Its just like shopping, you go to a store they say the price is 200, does that mean you'll have to stop looking/researching for cheaper ones? Charge it to experience(best teacher), fuck it and move on not worth puting any energy for all that drama. You'll come out better/wiser/stronger in the future, for sure.
There's no drama involved here I admit my part it in it, but thanks for pointing out the mistake I made. What? Were you worried I didn't know that I had a part it in, even after I said I did??? You have no idea how big of a breakthrough it has been for me to finally contact her after all this time. I have serious boundary issues and guess what - I was looking for support!
congrats for getting round to contacting her, i hope you get a nice reply and some (if not all) of the money back.. or even her assisstance to help remove the rest of them
good for u jojo im prouds of ya and u know as soon as u get it all ckleaned up finaly u know it'll dread up nice n fast and just think once u do got noice dreads you'll really have a story to tell..anbd a lesson to teach those who believe in shoercuts
awwww.... T, i'm so proud of you! that was an AWESOME and totally mature, boundary setting e-mail. it tells her that you are unhappy with the service you paid for, that you feel hurt because she ripped you off, and that you still believe she is a good person, just misguided in her attempts to help people start their dreads. good for you! arty:
I know, I really should have done my own research. Thanks, by the way, it's nice to hear that from time to time. I've updated with some recent pics on the same blog and another post on this forum.
