Do you have trouble being silent around someone?

Do you feel awkward or bored?

Does it depend who it is?

Why?

 

Not at all. I appreciate grand silences.

 

Only when I'm hormonal and in a talking mood. I hate it when that happens. I'm like the girls I can't stand that can't shut up. Otherwise, no. I can sit for hours with someone in complete silence.

 

Silence can say so much.

 

rarely. i will occasionally get in an obnoxiously talkative mood, generally if i'm with someone i particularly like. usually though, i have trouble not being silent around everybody.

 

Yeah.
Generaly people I want to impress.
Usually females.
But, I sound like a 15 year old when I open my mouth.
I've recognised this recently and bit my lip.
I still can be prown to waffling though.

 

I am quite often quite comfortably silent around people until I get to know them really well and then I talk as if I am thinking aloud. Both seem to make a lot of people uncomfortable.

 

im not really one of those talkers, but there are some times that i really want to talk. depends on how i feel than who im with

 

this

 

Nope. Silence is the vehicle for sexual tension. Now when I'm with my homies or family I talk me ass off.

 

How so, Hyphy? iggy:

 

When I have nothing to say
my lips are sealed
Say something once
why say it again?

 

...

 

yeah, pretty much the same here.

i still go silent fairly often even with people i know well though.

 

generally, no i don't.

around some people, yea, i feel like something needs to be said. this is because these people just stare at me, like a death stare - way overboard of eye contact. makes me uncomfortable. don't get me wrong, i love eye contact. but staring and silence just makes me uncomfortable

 

*Browses Rats' previous posts over the last three months...*

:leaving:

 

Violation theory. There's a certain energy that's displayed when you're completely silent(of course after chatting it up a bit) and if she breaks it, she was more reactive/nervous. It's kinda hard to explain without clear representation but, you feel me right?

 

Now it makes sense.

 

Same here. It really depends on my mood though. If I am blissfully happy or feeling worried then I will blurt off a bunch of crap like nobody's business. If I am all zen and in control then I can just sit. If I had more people in my life that were comfortable with both intense brooding silence and manic chatter then I would be a very happy person.

 

Also, most guys talking to beautiful women will say just about anything to keep the conversation going which in turn sub communicates neediness. If not they may get extremely nervous(figity movements, sweating) when there's dead silence. The sub communication of nervousness is what causes awkward silences. Now, if instead of being nervous during silent periods in a conversation you are comfortable with the silence the woman will feel like a social violator if she doesn't break the silence, putting the ball in your court. Because you're not fighting for her attention, she'll fight for yours and the more you mess with her the more sexual tension. of course there's such thing as doing it too much.