So, I was flirted with today

He does know how to small talk and flirt too.

The wombats thread is GREAT material for flirting, for instance.

Whatever neutral topic, coupled with playful teasing and/or veiled show of interest does it.

Then it's a matter of touching the back of her arm and: *flip cellphone open* "Let me have your number so we can go pick frogs by the lake together" *smile + eye-contact*

 

I agree, make a girl smile is one of the top things.

 

Don't be so insecure. Shit, you're worse than I am.

 

Surely your mind can be as fickle as everybody else's? Lower your standards and make observations on the stupidest little things. Thats what small talk is, its about NOTHING. Saying whatever stupid thing comes into your head will fill in the gaps when the vast, echoing chambers of your knowledge base don't have some information of absolute relevance to put forth. You never know, you might say something funny.

 

Dave if you can't help but be nervous just make sure you remember to let her know that you're interested in her. If she starts flirting with you, you are safe to flirt back (still be polite), infact if you don't too often she will think you're not interested in her in that way. As far as small talk just remember this isn't an episode of 'friends' it doesn't have to be 'normal'. What i mean is if she is interested in the same things as you then you can use those things as small talk eg. Baldurs gate, D&D

 

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my problem with trivia is I know too much, going from capyberra's to the nixon administration, to cryptography, to tonewoods, or even polycarbonate, freaks people out, and when I freak out (like when I am being flirted with) I go into spazzmode, which involves me sharing information no one ever wanted to know.

 

haha aww. if someone said that to me they would totally get my number. for sure.

 

Don't do that. keep it light and happy.

 

sooooo when are you going back?

 

ask them a question like: if you could be a wave, what type would you be and why?

at the least, it can get you talking

 

so you are essentially all telling me that I should talk to someone about nothing. the conversation is just for the sake of continuing o talk to her, and provide context for me to flirt back, and understanding of the other person's motives?

 

Yep.

 

I learned to flirt by the crash and burn method.

Force yourself to talk to new girls, all the time. It does not matter what it is about, just do it.

Talk about anything and keep smiling.

You odviously are intelligent and have a sense of humor. Use it!

I was so nervous at first I was literally shaking and stuttering.

Go up to them and talk. Get them to laugh and then ask them if they want to do something.

I crashed and burned so many times I can't even remember how many times it happened.

But in a few months of totally embarrassing myself, I realized it was no longer hard to go up to someone and talk.

It is a numbers game.

I am a master at flirting. But I suck at relationships.

 

that seems disturbingly uncomplicated.....

it's like the "too quiet" that precedes the ambush.

 

my flirting usually consists of shoving a guy down on his back and climbing on top of him. :tongue:

 

god, if a woman did tht to me, I would, my brain would shut down...

I would not be able to function until the shock wore off.

 

I am a flirt. So let me tell ya....it's not complicated.

 

clocks are simple to me, people are complicated, billions of variables, all vying for position to control decisions not yet made...

where, with a clock, it's just spring, pendulum, gears, hands.

maybe a chime train, or a cuckoo catchment system, but, all in all, at most, 200 variables for a really good one (not the best, but a clock that would be at the base of the grand mountain of prohibitively complicated)

 

i'm good at reviving guys from shock.