fingering?

when i finger a girl, is it a good idea to get my fingers wet in some way before. i never had a problem before my last experience when it didnt seem like there was much lubrication going on and it seemed like she wasnt enjoying it. and lately ive been weary of fingering my new GF

 

spit

 

use lube

 

lube is good but ruins spontenaity, stick your fingers in your mouth to get them a bit wet before starting to finger a girl.

 

if your girlfriend seems like she isnt enjoying it, maybe she isnt? you should get her to talk to you, maybe get her to guide your hand a little so that you can know what she would like you to do.

ive she's just lying there stony while you fumble at her crotch for hours its not gonna be a fulfilling experience for either of you... but the key is communication - if she doesn't tell you what she likes, how are you expected to know?

so ask her to talk it through more with you and let you know if you are doing something she doesn't like, and to maybe help you by lettign you know when she does like what you are doing.

then you might find you don't need extra lube.

 

Try out different technique.

 

Never ever had a problem getting a girl wet. Perhaps you aren't stimulating her enough before jumping to finger her.

 

Use your own saliva...

 

do this, it an be kinda sexy anyway

 

I agree with the licking your fingers thing... however maybe she just doesn't like it... maybe she is not letting herself relax enough to enjoy it... you need to communicate

 

exactly! if she wants it, then a little external stimulation before using your fingers to penetrate her will let her work up a bit of natural lubricant. only insert a littttttle bit at first and bit by bit you'll be able to fully get in there.

assuming she likes it. if she doesnt want you to do it, then she'll probably never be wet enough to finger. if she likes you and wants it, she'll most likely be moist enough very quickly. just dont go in too far too fast.

 

ya thanks everybody but i think i came off a little wrong, it was a different girl that i had been with over the summer that seemed like she wasn't enjoying it but i had never had a problem before that and now i have a different girlfriend but it fine now no problems i had just been a little weary because of the other experience

 

Well different girls enjoy different things I guess.... I never did like it but I am learning too relax and enjoy it

 

get her abit wet with ur tongue then finger... or simultainiously

 

Maybe yr just ugly. *shrug* Who knows.