any input would help . ..he wouldn't even come to the sonogram. let alone look at the picture. he said my "mom was more important", and didn't even wanna listen or talk . .just yell. i'm 6 months prego with his kid, and don't know how to handle this, myself. some men i spoke with suggest he's just scared, but that still leaves me clueless. any input would be great, or mabey the name of a book i could get him to help him cope? PLEASE HELP thanx, nicole
do the best you can on your own, maybe he'll come around, maybe he won't...all you can really do is take care of you and your little one and hope for the best. Perhaps after baby is born and daddy meets him or her he'll warm up to the whole idea a little more.
This could be true...honestly, my own husband wasn't the most supportive person during our pregnancy with our oldest son. Heck, at times I felt totally alone! He admitted later on that he had been afraid, and also that he felt left out, being that I had all of the attention being pregnant, and he couldn't relate to the whole pregnancy process. In fact, HE actually felt left out! Anyway, when our oldest was born, my goodness, he did a 360. Let me tell you. He was a natural, took to being a daddy like a duck to water, he was so full of love and pride! I don't know how I would have made it through that post-partum period without him and his love and support of our son. I think he took to the new parenthood even better than I did! Good luck to you...don't give up yet. Hopefully he'll come around.
My fiance is very much the same except he is coming to the sonogram... he is at his old college town, partying it up. I think he just doesn't understand what is going on. I try to give him some slack... because like hippychickmommy said he could turn around. I know my man will be different once the baby is here.
still 2gether, not living agether, though. Ill just give up on him, i guess. Its just too fucking stressful. . .
I had to deal with alot of that too with my daughters father. it was stressful. i spent more time crying and screaming that he needed to care then I did relaxing and taking care of myself and my little blossoming babay. If i could have done it all over I would have not taken it personal. However, when she came along, he was the best daddy and so full of love for her. when I lfet him thogh....thats when he lost it again. some personality types are a game of russian roultette
Time will tell. Us guys don't always behave as well as we should when a new baby, especially the first, is coming. I wanted to be supportive, but I certainly could have done better. And yes, feeling left out and at the sidelines was an issue. Take care of yourself and your new one first and foremost. MAybe he will come around...maybe not. Many guys who were questionable during the pregnancy do turn out to be stand up fathers. Having babies make us guys emotional noodles too.
he will most probably come around..just do all the right things and don't push and he will come along..I never understand men that do not want to be a part of their kids lives..a dads influence is huge and plays just as important role as the mother.
. .he was arrested last night, i had an order of protection put against him . .and i went to the hospital 'cause i started bleeding (you know where). doesn't really sound like he's "coming around" ps me and baby r fine, i'm just very sore today...but thanks for the advice, none the less
well, if he comes near me, or even if i see his vehicle i call the cops and he goes straight to hell. i mean federal prison
apparently he's an asshole. .. who's gotten away with this kind of shit when dealing with his ex-girlfriends. he'll never see this kid
then make sure he is not on the certificate OR get a pre-birth custody plan worked out/ termination of rights signed now. Don't forget the grand parents: do they want to be around? will the kiddo get to know them or is the risk too high?
