I'm Well Confused

Ok...i know you may not really give a rat's ass, but i need somewhere to write it.

I was going out with a guy who i'm now on a break with because he kept getting drunk and being too over-emotional, which i really can't handle, so i told him i want to go on a break until october the first. this means that technically, we aren't going out.

now i dont really want judgement so please dont post any criticisms, but he and i had a sort of agreement in which if we got too drunk and ended up getting on somone else, we'd tell the other. one of the other reasons i told him i wanted a break is because he got on someone and someone else told me, so i had to question him about it to hear it from him.

it's not the fact that he did it that annoyed me, it's the fact that he didn't tell me himself.


but anway, i've recently started college and i've met a guy who's really sweet in his own way, and i consider him a really good friend already. i've only been at college a week and he and i met up tonight and had a drink. nothing really happened between he and i, but he was talking about one of our other friends (who is bi) and our bi friend is going to ask out a girl at college. the guy i was with was complaining that the bi guy didnt ask him out.

i know i shouldn't, but i felt fairly jealous and im not sure why. i mean, the guy i'm on a break with is really sweet and i love him so i dont understand where this jealousy is coming from. i dont really like it because it upsets me, but i really want to know why i'm jealous.
ok, admittedly, i do like the guy i met up with tonight, but i know i'm getting back with my guy in october.

it just seems like im in a really awkward position and i really dont know what to do because i dont want to cheat on anyone or, to be honest, upset anyone.
i'm a peope-pleaser when it comes to action, and i generally put other people before myself, no matter what. this often means that i'm not happy.

it's really upsetting me and i'm just clueless at this point in time....

any thoughts or advice or anything would be much appreciated.

thanks
~G
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p.s. i just realised how easy it really is to write loads in these things.

 

i love you babyboy

 

i love you too babes<3

(but thats random and off topic...come see me soon yeah?)

~G
xXxXx

 

ur 16 and in college? wtf is up with that? and ur in college its a cornicopia of sex not a time for monogomy

 

in the Uk college is where you go when you do your a-levels and stuff like that if you dont stay on in school. most college students here are age 16 to 19.

what you guys call college we call university. its a "pavement/sidewalk" thing.

i have no advice for this guy btw, ive just had this convo with confused americans before.

 

I reckon its because the guy your on a break with 'got with someone' and now your trying to 'get on someone' to get back at him. And you werent feeling jealous, you just wanted to screw that guy for revenge.

 

Agreed that the 16 at college thing is weird, but your other comment was pretty stupid. Cornucopia of sex? Blegh. Why do so many people assume that younger people are incapable of having monogamous relationships?

As for advice...Man, it's hard to tell seeing as I have no idea as to what kind of relationship you and your "ex" had. If you feel you love him and that things will work out then I'd go back to him. But if you really do have feelings for this other guy and don't really feel keen to get with your ex, then maybe consider getting to know this new friend a little better.

 

i'm fairly sure its not a revenge thing.....

i'm really not that bothered that he did it, just that he didnt tell me. and if i wanted to get back at him, then i'd have done it when we werent on a break...

but i've recently felt that i dont want to get back with my ex because i dont really want to be in a long term relationship at 16. i mean, i do love him but....ehhh...i dunno.

the thing is, i dont think he'd understand or react well if i told him this.
he wouldnt get violent, just get really upset and emotional, and as i said, i tend to be a people-pleaser....

its an awkward position, no?

~G
xXxXx

 

Yeah it an awkward position to be in, good luck though. Your a bit young to be in a long term relationship but ya know. Que sera sera

 

i dont mean incapable its just that when your young its the time ur at like ur sexual peek and really the only time its that easy to have random sex so why waist the chance he has the rest of his life to worrie about love now its time to play the feild and gain expirence

 

thank u for clearing it up

 

thats what i've been thinking really....
i'm too young to be in a serious, long term relationship, and to be fairly honest i dont WANT to be.

i like the freedom i guess...

~G
xXxXx

 

I reckon you should concentrate on your college work and just go out and have fun on the weekends, perhaps get laid. I used to do it. It didnt do me any major harm lol

 

things are sorted babes'

i talked ro my ex last night because he was getting upset because he lost my favourite sunnies and i had a go at him, then he started bitching to one of my friends who told me what he was saying.

so, to put it really briefly, i told him to go forth and multiply.
understandably i was upset though but the guy i like atm was around and he managed to cheer me up last night

so yeah....problem solved i guess....

~G
xXxXx

 

Con-gratz man. Hope life is much easier for you now. College is a bitch

 

Thanks for the support guys

things are so much easier now without the stress that was being put on me by my ex....

i feel more free now XD

~G
xXxXx

 

yay

 

Right well. Not only am i not confused, but im happy

the guy i like asked me out last saturday =D

good times my friends.
and i havent spoken to my ex in just over a week now. im not sure if its a good or a bad thing

~G
xXxXx

 

My opinion of you, even if its online, has totally changed.(sounds stupid I know).

I mean wtf? Who says you have to sex it up when your young. That is stupid, since me, as well as people I know, would prefer monogamous relationships any day over random sex.

to OP: I'm not sure what I'd do in this situation, but its very awkward indeed. I'd contact my ex, let him know whats going on to see him reaction. From there I'll reassess my feelings and make a decision.

 

i don't know why. but this is a good post i think!

























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