do you consider this wrong/cheating?

Ok here's the story...

there's this girl I really like a lottt... and she likes me too, and we're in different cities so I won't be seeing her that often... anyway, I'll be seeing her next month though.... and we're not going to be sexual active.

Here's the thing... I talk to this other girl sometimes online, and basically, she shows herself to me on a webcam sometimes and in naked photos, and we pretty much just talk dirty and jerk off to each other..... that's pretty much it.

Now I dont want anything to ruin what could be everything with the first girl.... so would you consider what I do with this webcam girl cheating/ just wrong?

like is this different from watching porn?

 

well it's not cheating, since you don't seem to be dating girl #1.

i wouldn't call it wrong either, i mean you are your own person...do what you want.

BUT i'm SURE girl #1 would NOT like this. you probably already knew that, so you're back to where you started:cheers2:

 

Nah, I wouldn't think it's cheating at all and thats coming from a girl ; )

 

thanks for hte help porkstock41 lol....

but seriously, yeah I'm sure too she would NOT like this.... Ash, you don't consider it cheating but how would you feel if a guy you were with was doing this with another girl?

 

mmmm..

if i were the girl you 'liked', i'm be upset.

though it's not cheating exactly, it'd still be a little like 'if you like me so much why do other girl's interest you in such a way?'

but, you're your own person yeah.. do whatever you want.. but, you should consider karma.

 

I would be pissed. If I foudn out that you apparently liked me but you were pulling this shit any chage you had with me would be gone.

 

:iagree:^^(I usually do with sarahrei)

I'd be pissed too, I'd also reconsider whether or not you deserve to be in my life at all

 

uve posted this two or three times lol
any way just have fun

 

Sorry didn't know what section it belonged in...

well I do really like this girl, but we haven't actually even went out yet..... but at the same time I don't wanna be thinking/feeling guilty that like u know, it was only a week ago i was seeing this other girl.

I feel weird if I think of the girl I like though when it comes to watching porn or whatever.. and it's not because she's not good looking, she's stunning.... but I feel like i'm disrespecting her if I think of her like that.

 

I think you should ditch this web cam girl. Relationships invovle sacrafice.

 

true... better too soon than too late I guess... thanks for the advice I'll be thinking long and hard about this.

 

I just talked to like my closest friend and she said she'd consider it cheating because I'd be provoking her... and I realized, that if I feel guilty, well then there's my answer, and no way would I trade her for the girl im crazy about.

Thanks everyone.

 

how would you feel if you found out the girl was doing the same thing? that's usually a good way to tell if you shouldn't be doing it.

i would want the guy i was dating to stop dating, camming, having phone sex, etc with other people as the relationship got serious... it does show me a. how serious the relationship is to him or b. what he considers okay in a relationship (in other words, would he want an open relationship or something monogamous?)

i definitely do not consider it to be the same as watching porn

 

i want her and only her.

i guess that's the answer.