teenage girls, sex, and birth control

This is where KC and I differ but I agree with that statement in general. I know kids can be sneaky and whatnot. I get that and it's going to happen. What I wont do is issue a free pass and turn a blind eye. What kind of daddy WOULD do that?

 

not one worth having, that's for sure. but i believe in preperation. kids, man, you can't lock them in a closet.

 

Nope but you can pay attention and have your finger on the pulse of whats happening in their lives.

 

yeah, if they're half as sneaky as i was, and as good at playing innocent, they're gonna be trouble. all you can do is your best. but abstinence training is only one piece of information.

 

True enough but we have already proven that we are many times as involved in our kids lives than our parents were in ours. I dont think what we did as children is a good judge of what to expect out of ours.

 

it's true, but i'm not going to set my daughter to the world under- or misinformed.

 

of course not. Me neither. That was never my arguement.

 

yeah, it's going to be a nightmare.

 

lil turds

 

man, i can't control joey now. i'm terrified of her being a teenager.

 

Yep, I have more fear with her than Kai. Sheesh. Thats ok we just keep doin what were doin and be the best we can. We will have to eduacte the shit outta that girl. She's going out into the world in her own time no doubt.

 

I asked my mom at 6 where babies came from, and she told me, and I thought that it was really gross. At 14 when I was living with one of my boyfriends at my parents house I asked if I could go onto the pill, she said yes and I've been on the pill ever since.

I think I would do it the same way that my mom did. I felt like I knew enough, and I was safe.

 

alls well that ends well I suppose.

 

luckily, we did it all and will be wiser than our own parents to the lies and sneakiness. all my mom had to do was a little checking up. it's nice to trust them, but it's their job to push the envelope and try to get away with stuff. i plan on letting the leash out very slowly. sure it's a pain in OUR asses, but it's for their own good. i knew kids who were on a shorter leash and they weren't getting into as much trouble as i was. one girl though, got pregnant her first year (few months) in college as soon as she was away from mom's watchful eye ... so there's always the problem of suffocating them and having them go hog wild the first few weeks they live away.

do we reep what we sow? i hope not.

 

you can't always expect them to be sensible. suddenly they're ditching school, and while you think they're busily studying they're off doing god knows what god knows where. because they think they're so mature and smart. ugh.

 

my mom never wanted me to have sex
so ive never told her
i think that parents should be more accepting i mean you should talk about it with your kids but its such a weird thing to talk about it
my mom always talked about it in a really negative way when i did work up the courage to ask her about it
but ive been curious about it ever since i was really really little, i have older brothers
and i had older friends?
i know its weird for little girls to feel sexual but i was a bad i guess
i thought about it all the time, which i have a little thought that it might come from just being a passionate scorpio
but it wasnt really my fault i mean i turned out alright, i know more things about true love it seems because the difference between love and lust has become so distinct

 

Yea well I'm at the age where my parents are trying to figure out what to do about sex. I've gone to catholic school for the past 13 years and they keep trying to tell me that I shouldn't have sex until I'm an adult. In reality I wish they were a little more trusting of me because I have to say I'm a really good daughter. I do really well in school, always do my chores, and yea pretty much do what I'm told. However, I have been dating someone for the past 5 months and they keep telling me not to have sex. Really I just wish my parents were a little more supportive or whatever but in the end I'm probably not going to wait until I turn 18; that's stupid. I think when my boyfriend and I decide to have sex we are going to be responsible about it, and I shouldn't have to lie to my parents and say that I'm not having sex.

 

your parents want you to wait until your an adult?
i guess it takes a while for you to actually mature
i mean ive had sex when i wasnt in love
its not going to ruin your life
maybe confuse things a bit
but in the end you'll have learned something
and have more respect for sex
develop a bigger taste for love

 

I started taking birth control when I was 16 at the same age I had sex for the first time. I became pregnant at 16 and my daughter was born when I was 17. I dont regret it at all.

I believe a girl should be on birth control when she feels it is ready no matter what age. Its their body and they no when the time is right for them.

If my daughter ever came to me and told me that she was pregnant i wouldnt freak out...ive been there and it doesnt help at all. When your a teen and pregnant people look at you different and make comments about you. You dont get to see your friends that much or go out as most teens do. Its hard(still dont regret it) So i would be there for my daughter every step of the way.

If she came to me and told me that she had an STD still wouldnt freak out I would be by her side whenever she needs me.

Face the facts. Sex is a part of life. Teens are going to have sex even if their parents dont like it. But if you had sex when you were a teen i dont really think you have the right to get mad at them for having sex. Just make sure you talk to them about safe sex.

 

i have every right to get mad. i don't care if i WAS 14 when i started. even though everything turned out okay, for many of my friends, things were not good at all. that's not hypocritical, that's understanding the odds. if i was to say they were awful for wanting to have sex, THEN i'd be a hypocrite, expecting them to be smart about it is entirely different. when i'm done raising my children, i want a few years before there's grandchildren.