Well... Here we go... I am 19 and have been gay or atleast ive known i was gay since i was prolly 13... BUt recently i've been getting sick of guys... I mean is this common for someone to just turn straight ... I mean I might be considered bi, but really the thought of being with a guy makes me sick now.. i have been with a guy b4 many times, and after "the acts" ive always felt sick - and like "OMG why'd i just do that".... I really dont know... Can anyone help?
Sometimes people have the whole "omg what did I just do" moment after sex but that's nothing to be alarmed about. I guess the question to ask would be do you find yourself attracted to girls? Because it seems to me that someone who is considered "bi" and is just attracted to guys (no matter how sick they may be of them) would be gay.
If you really are "straight" now, then you were probably never really gay in the first place, or bi. Or maybe you're now ashamed of being gay, and want to "turn straight" in order to feel better. The question is, are you attracted to girls or not? I think lots of people try and force themselves to be straight, because they think its the right thing to do. I am straight myself, but i really believe if you're gay, you're gay. If you're bi you're bi, if you're straight, you're straight. The problem is, lots of gay people fell pressured into being "straight". Probably brought on by a sense of shame because of a lot of people's negative views and feelings about homosexuality. \ I could be wrong, but i cant believe someone who has been attracted to men for 6 years or so, would all of a sudden not be. Maybe you are attracted to girls as well, i dont know. But it certainly seems like you're trying to repress your sexual feelings towards men. The use of the word "feeling sick" would seem to indicate that. As someone else said, its a simple question, are you attracted to girls? But i dont think someone can just "turn straight" or "turn gay". Your sexuality is what it is, and cant be changed. You can pretend or try and force yourself to have a different sexual orientation, but that's hardly the same thing. Remember, lots of gay men try to be straight, not because they are attracted to girls, its because they're ashamed of their sexuality, or afraid of others reactions to it. Its just my personal opinion, but i dont believe sexual orientation is something that can be changed. You are what you are, and that's it
Well --- I think im Bi ... But im leaning towards girls now... I'm not really ashamed of who i am... But its just I am really sick of men, i just want to have a normal relationship (and i dont mean like common straight relationship - just a relationship that isnt just for sex)... I'm gonna try to go on a few dates with girls, and see if it turns to a friends thing or see if I actually wanting a woman.... But yea, i am def Bi....
Yeah, i thought you'd have to be bi. I dont think you can be attracted to men, then all of a sudden not be. Maybe you were always attracted to girls too, just at that time you for some reason preffered being with men.
It seames that you can make up your mind verry quickly e.g. gay then straght then bi - dont be ashamed of who you are. The other thing is if honestly you think you are probably gay then why / who are forcing you to turn straight. If so then these people should get over it and accept you for you are or go. The main thing in this situation i belive is to be who you are and to be proud of that. hopes this helps
heh, kind of sounds like me the last year. not to burst your bubble, but now im pretty sure im just flat out gay =). but that doesn't mean you are- thats just my experience with flip flopping between being gay and then bi, and then "liking women". I think it was just denial/shame/trying to be straight. Either way though, you will figure things out eventually and be much happier once you know for sure.
i think that some times u are atracted to both but society favores thoes who have "chosen a side" so we feel we need to decide what sex we liek most and oftent times we choose the one we are already in a relationship with or the one we have bein experimenting with at the time or the one we feel our parents or community will see as right
OH god guys... i have no clue now hahahaha... I think im gay .. i'm still emotionally attracted to girls, BUT physically attracted to guys... SO, looks like the gay card got pulled (haha im so positive), but I in no way am ashamed of it anymore... Im still not out, but still -- I view it as - I am who I am... Im happy....
Good to hear that you aren't ashamed anymore. It's a real tragedy that society makes gay kids feel like they are doing something wrong when they are simply doing what comes naturally to them. One thing to remember is that a lot of people feel that way when they first start experiencing sexuality and you'll probably grow out of it.
I'm bisexual as well and I have had times where women were the hottest things in the world. The next week, I would be jonesin' for man flesh so harsh, it's a surprise I'm still a virgin. Nowadays, I'm on an asexual bent. I think it's relatively normal to get bored with things once you get too familiar.
