teenage girls, sex, and birth control

I was watching a talk show earlier today and they had some young (ranging from 13-17) teen girls on who were either pregnant, had children, or were trying to get pregnant. These weren't the bratty teens who roll their eyes at everybody on Maury. These girls were very polite and some really full of regret.

So... What are your thoughts on the subject? Will you force your daughters to get on birth control at a certain age regardless of whether they've come to you about it or not? How would you react if your child told you she, or his girlfriend if a boy, was pregnant or they thought they had an STD? Is teaching them how to be safe/careful when they're young, enough? At what age do you sit them down?

 

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Can I just bury my head in the sand till my girls are 25?
KC and I have slightly different ideas here. :toetap05:

 

My parents never talked to me about sex or boyfriends. its just not something we do. And I dont know will I have that talk with my kids one day. I somehow doubt it.
Kids learn everything by themselves these days...I did too, and I turned out pretty good.

 

Cool, so I can bury my head in the sand. YAY!!!!

 

I guess so....It worked for my parents.
My sister did try to tell our mom about her boyfriend once....Mom wasnt interested at all.

 

Hate to say it but my girls will get an earfull but more especially so will be their boyfriends. At least the ones they introduce me to.

 

ours will be a very open household, in which sex is discussed, and all the information given, so that our children will get to know TRUE information, rather than the wierd things kids come up with.

there are so many myths that kids believe. like that you can't get pregnant if the girl's on top, or that you can't get pregnant the first time, or that if you douche you won't get pregnant. all of these are SO wrong!!!

but yeah. our kids will be walking sex information portals, lol! i know that teenagers (and preteens) are sexual beings, and if they're gonna do something, at least i want them to have the correct information so they DON'T get into something they didn't want to get into.

that being said, i would hope my kids don't end up pregnant or knocking a girl up or getting STDs... but if it were to happen, i would love and support them in any way i could, but i would seriously doubt their sanity, lol, considering they would have already had all the information needed to help them prevent these situations.

i would never force a daughter of mine to take birth control "just in case." i hope i will be able to trust my daughters to come and ask me to help them get it if they are going to be sexually active, because i will make sure they get bc, condoms, whatever else they need so they can be safe.

i started having sex when i was 14, so i know young kids do it. it didn't fuck me up, and i wouldn't change it for the world, so i can't be judgmental towards my kids if they have sex when they're really young either.

 

I dont think I'll go to those lengths myself but I will talk to them about it and be sure they know what I feel they should know at that tender young age.

 

depends on what you think is a tender young age...

i overheard some fifth graders at a christian school playground yesterday talking about blowing someone on the bus. tell me that's a tender young age who needs only the bare minimum of knowledge about sex.

 

I will have a very good hand on the pulse of my girls and will judge tender young age as it comes. Right now it happens to be 6 and 3. Next year 7 and 4.
My oldest already has a good head on her shoulders and has a healthy awareness of what business she has.
Fear not, I'm a very involved daddy.

 

lol... i wasn't trying to be pointed towards you dave. i think we've already realized before in thread discussions that we have very different views on the kid raising thing... which is totally cool.

i was just shocked by what i heard the other day, and was like... whoah. so i shared.

 

No worries man. I totally feel ya. I have the same concerns myself. I was born horny, no shit I was. 5 years old and ready to go man. That's why I freak about it.I just cannot be quite as open as you would be about the subject. I will however, be hyper involved and be sure my babies are well informed and protected.

 

it's all you can do, really.

 

hyper involvement can delay sexual activity for the most part. teenagers can't really have sex when adults are physically around keeping an eye on their activities. when they're home alone, who knows what's happening. i know what was happening when i was teenager home alone ... SEX.

 

and there's all that time when they're not in the house. i know what i was doing, SEX. my mom was a stay at home mom. lol. she thought i was a virgin until i was 16.

 

were you at a house where parents weren't present?

 

i made sure my kids knew about everything before they even needed to know. they knew about their bodies and how everything works. they knew all the diseases, how ya get 'em and how ya prevent 'em. i kept condoms around the house easy to find so they wouldn't have to ask for them. i made sure they knew where the family planning clinic was. they knew they could ask me anything and i wouldn't blink or evade. sex is gonna happen, whether you prepare them or not. may as well prepare them.

 

my kids asked questions at a very young age and i've always been honest. new question arise every six months. answering questions leads to new questions. my kids know everything. my son has always been very serious about sex topics, yet my daughter, when i explained sexual intercourse to her about a year ago, she laughed her head off. she though it was the most ridiculous thing she'd ever heard ..... penis in vagina .... hahahahahahah. i laughed with her (cause laughing is contagious). from the perspective of a 7 (almost 8) year old girl, i can see how it sounds silly. at that point she was done talking about it with me.

 

My parents left it to my school and playground rumours to learn about sex, and it took me a long, long time to get it all figured out. I'm pretty sure when I have children i'm not going to keep them in the dark, I'm going to be honest without taking away their innocence (as in bare basic facts about reproduction and stuff) When they're old enough I'll hope that they can talk to me about anything because I can't talk to my parents about anything at all, and therefore my parents are rather naive to what i get up to

 

oh yeah. though we managed to sneak when the parents weren't present. lol. we were determined. parents can't be on their kids 24/7. kids know it, too. they LIE, they sneak, and they get their way.