So, my Fiance and I have been together for about a year and a half.. and we don't have sex enough anymore.. We used to have sex ALL the time, several times a day, everyday.. Then we moved and our lives became more demanding, and every night when I wanted sex, he would say that he had to get up early or something (and he did, it wasn't like he was lying to get out of having sex with me, but I guess I felt less important than the other facets of his life) Anyhow, I've realized that I want sex less now, I don't know if it's because I was tired of being told no, or if it's because we've just settled into the relationship, or what.. But now he seems to want sex more, and I just don't really get into it.. And we're not enjoying it together.. And when I actually do want to have sex, I want to be seduced, I want him to do something sweet and romantic for me, and then kind of work for it.. (not literally 'work'..) I just keep finding myself wanting it to be like it was when we first got together, it seems like somewhere along the way he forgot what I like in bed or that he just stopped caring.. Last night I wanted to have sex, he was clearly tired, and didn't seem like he was into it.. I ended up getting upset, I guess because it just seems like as soon as I want it, he doesn't, and it becomes something we really have to work for - and I hate that! I feel like sex, of all things, should just come easy.. You know? So, I'm not asking for someone to tell me that I should break up with him or anything else along those lines.. I love him completely and would prefer to live a sexless life than a life without him by my side.. I really am just curious to know if any of you have experienced a situation similar to ours in your own relationship, and how you got out of it.. Anyone?
maybe you two should find a different time to try having sex than right before bed when hes always exhausted. saturday mornings/afternoons can be great for that kind of thing, just drag him into the bedroom and pounce
I was with my Ex for 3 years. We used to have sex up to 6 times a day till the 2 year mark. after 2 years we started only having sex every 2 days and after a while it turned to 2 times a week. It happens.
the ebb and flow of a relationship. Yes, I have felt similiar. TO me it was a matter of making my relationship and the intimacy between me and my lover a priority. That is your mate and connection is needed...whether it be intimately or communication. Have you guys talked about it? WHenever we have issues, we discuss them with one another in as clear a way as possible. We love one another whole heartedly and do not want to be the cause of the other ones suffering...so things always change. Relationships are like that though. They go up and down. Moving is stressful. Life is demanding. Make the time for one another. Keep the spark alive. Go on dates. Play with one another. Its easy to fall back in lustful love if you just open up and don't take things too personally.
talk about it tell him how u want to be subdued and so on dont worry relationships are like the sea they go up and down. some days its wonderfull sunny and a nice warm wind and other its stormy and horrible with dam little kids running around all over, so make the best of it tie him down and kick his ass lol
