help needed- advice about my cousin

hi im 18 i live with my mum since my dad left when i was a kid. my cousin Jade lives down the street with my aunt. I used to play with her a lot as a kid- im 2 years older so she'd always tag along when i was younger. plus we'd spend a lot of time over eachothers houses. she was always my annoying lil cousin even though we were quite close, thing is over the last year or so she really has blossomed, i noticed she's never liked any girl i hung out with.

now whenever she comes over she's always got make up on & wearing a strappy top & she is really nosey into who i go out with & then she goes on about some random guy ive never seen her with.


havent been into her room for years. sure when i was like a 13 or 14 i used to play ps2 with her as kids do. we are both older now- things are different when ur older. a couple of times ive come home gone into my room & i know somebody has been in there. the stuff in my draw has been moved. the photo of me in my rugby kit moved the door closed shut when i left it slightly ajar etc. its gotta be her & she can be a bit childish tho just the other day she was calling me stupid names.

oh & since ive got a car she comes round wanting a lift to somewhere- even tho she can walk or take a bus before. last week she wanted help with her homework even tho i know she is quite smart. i tried making an excuse but my mum forced me to go over & there she was on the sofa - tank top, bra clearly visible, denim skirt. i didnt know where to look.

at first i was imagining things but other things fit into place:

she blushed when i caught her singing to herself. she brushed up against me when trying to pass me in the kitchen. plus why go into my room?

shud i confront her, ignore her or what?

 

hmmmmmmm

I say just ignore her.

but you should confront her about going through your room when your not there.

 

did I mention that she is really hot?

still it makes me feel so guilty just thinking about her. its not a crime but its not normal tho is it?

 

we cant help who we are attracted 2. The only problem is what are you going to do about it.

 

how old is she? i think its just young behaviour personally... worry about that stuff if shes an adult but it sounds mor elike young teenaged behavioru to me than anything meaningful *shrug*

 

she's 16 I'm 18. I just dont know what my mum & aunt would think.

 

It is deff a tabbo

but ask yourself do you really want to go down that road and question your feelings are just attracted to her body or is there more.

 

possibly they will be happy for you both???

 

Bog it to 'er boy.

 

sounds to me like she's testing her sexuality, her ability to get what she wants/be manipulative on somebody "safe" who she knows won't do anything.

 

bro its normal, better think this one through tho... you dont want to stir up a family foul. you say shes not like anyone youve met, meaning your more interested in her than just the denim skirt. id just avert my mind and seek more challenging targets. theres no reason to settle for your little cousin, go get a trophy. lol...

 

yeah, i mean, if you're attractive enough that your own cousin wants you, i'm sure you can do better. try to mix up the gene pool a bit, you know?

 

that actually sounds dead on.

 

so she is screwing with my head

im definitley gonna confront her now