So my GF wont do BJs, how can I teach her?

My GF is young, 19, and she wont do anthing oral.

She isnt dead set against it but she always "pussyies" out of it. She has told me that she will do it one day but the day we set passed and nothing. I just think that she is afraid and that she has never done it before.

Is there any gentle way to teach her or a way for her to make up her mind about it? I really love her and we will be getting married so I would like a BJ at least once in the next 70 years.


Thanks!

 

tell her to close her eyes and open her mouth.

j/k

hmmmmmmmmmm just tell her you would like to try more things during sex you could offer to do her or some other freaky thing she has on her mind.

 

Tried that already. No go.

I go down on her and I wont do anal so there isnt much else left to do.

 

not true there are tons of freaky stuff you could do. It is not all blow jobs and anal (with the latter being more fun)

you got bondage, outdoor stuff etc...... You just have to offer her something that will really trun her on.

 

We will do the outdoors when we get a chance (already been discussed). No bondage though. We both agree on that.

She always wants be to fill her up so I dont understand her logic. She isnt afraid of getting pregnant (she is on some shot) but she dont do anything else.

 

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

damn dude i dont understand then. your just goin to have to trick her or something.

 

get a dildo toy and use it on her. Then suck it after its been in her.
Are you affraid to show her with that?
Go down on her and lick her up for about a hour..
69 her and she'll have no choice if your dick is in her face and your doing her real good.
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If that dont work find a new girlfriend.

 

I actually would more so suggest the first approach, no joking. When you're getting ready to do it, tell her to just try hard and put everything about the thought of it that she doesn't like out of her head. Get her on her knees in front of you and go for the close eyes and open mouth approach, and just tell her to suck when it enters and go easy on her. Tell her that she is doing good as she does it.

Perhaps have her sucking on a sucker and your cock in her mouth at the same time until she feels ok to ditch the sucker and just focus on you...

Man I don't know. I'd think these sort of things would work, but I've never been in the situation.

 

I didn't know there were still women who don't do oral. But try to go in baby steps: Lick/head in/halfway/ slowsuck/fast suck/ etc.

 

Dump her or get it from someone else. She obviously isn't into it. Girls like her are why many guys go to video peep stores to get blowjobs from gay guys who are more than willing.

 

Moron.

You dont just dump someone cause they are uncomfortable doing something.
Try asking her if she is apprehensive because of her lack of skill or because she is really not into it. Every talent has to be learned. The first time i ever gave head was when the guy i was with liked it when he would lay on the bed with me stroking his dick and my head laying on his stomache. You gotta be familar with something before you go putting it in your mouth. Give it a try and see what happens. Pornos are great for checking something out before you give it a try. Let her accidently catch you watching one about blowjobs and maybe she will see that it really turns you on. That or offer a trade. One sexual favor for another. good luck

 

You're a dumbass, a girl should never have to give oral for the relationship to work. If anything, it shows that the girl isn't a whore.

 

straight up chris

 

I wouldn't call Patrick a dumbass or a moron. Actually, Orison319 said about the same thing as Patrick, just not as abruptly.

I particularly take issue with ChrisGriffin who is so quick to call someone else a dumbass and then comes up with some antiquated platitude equating oral sex with being a whore. WTF century are you from?

My wife gave me head all the time - couldn't keep her mouth off my cock. You callin' my wife a whore you dumbass?

(when you've been married for 14 years and not just been on the planet that long, come back and tell me about relationships)

And it is an issue when one partner is not satisfying another. The guy indicated he wanted oral and his girl is not giving it. He either has to stop wanting it, find another source for it or dump the girl.

That sounds shallow, but how can you have a long-term relationship not satisfying your partner.

 

sucking dick doesnt equal a whore at all. Not everyone is into the same things. its the spice of life that keeps things interesting.

 

Still, it can't be denied that a girl is less likely to be a whore if she doesn't suck dicks. I mean, if you meet a girl there is a certain probability that she is in fact whorish. And we can assume that there are very few whores who have never given a blowjob, even if the vast majority of women who have given them are not whores.

 

Huh????

Where are you ppl coming from?

A whore is someone who takes money for sexual favors and can feign love for profit. A wife or GF sucking her ol' man's cock for the love of it is not a whore.

 

The point I'm making is that not every girl has to do something they don't want to do. If they don't want to do it, leave it at that. Can you understand that?

 

No shit, but a girl doesn't have to blow every man she's with. I used to go with a girl who I'm trying to date. I asked her if she does it, she said no, and I left it at that. If you love or have strong feelings for someone, go ahead and do it, but not every girl should feel obligated to do it.

 

LOL the thread got a little off topic!

I wont see here again till Jan 09 so we have plenty of time to talk about it. We will see.