It always bugs me when I see an astonishingly beautiful...

...total stranger. Walking down the sidewalk or standing in line in the same room or something. I know that in general the best advice for getting women (well, anyone I guess) is to be forward and confident, but generally that's for people you can at least meet. I'd feel far too strange and rude just walking up to a girl I've never seen before with nothing in common, nothing to talk to her about, and no indication that she's even noticed me.

It's not like it bothers me because I feel like I should approach her but am not forward enough or because she doesn't notice me--I don't expect every girl I see to want to look at me, though I might try to pretend like I do--but because I usually just can't think of any way beyond following her around and waiting for some chance to appropriately meet her, which obviously isn't an option.

So then the girl walks away and I never see her again and I feel like I've missed out on something amazing.


(this isn't one particular girl I'm talking about, though this post was inspired by such an incident today. Wow she was cute!)

 

I know what you mean. I've seen many cute girls and it blows because you KNOW you really don't have a chance. Especially if you don't even know the person. I wish people (girls mostly) were more open, but with rapists and murders, it's hard for chicks to go on a limb for someone they don't know. So, just have to stay within a boundary.

 

I know exactly what you mean, I see a hot girl out somewhere, and I really want to approach them, but I don't, and you literally see them walk away forever. I can't just approach girls out of nowhere, I have to know they're a little bit interested first, and if I don't get any signals, I don't have the confidence to make a move.

 

I don't think that is very fair that you are saying mostly girls don't have an open mind. Let me ask this... Are you gonna approach a less beautiful girl or will you just shrug her off for being less beautiful? If you answer no to that question the I spy a hypocrite. How do you know she isn't being open minded if you haven't even approached her?

Just talk to the girl. Maybe she didn't notice you, because she has something else on her mind, maybe she just wasn't paying attention. Just talk to the girl and stop worrying the worst that could happen is she'd say she isn't interested in you.


Tiffany

 

I think you should suck it up and talk to her, If it's a total stranger then if you fuck up you'll never see her again. So its win-win.

 

That's the theory, but under that logic you can be a total jerk to strangers too. Either of those behaviors is seemingly beyond me.

It's easy enough to say that you should approach the person regardless, but then what? "Hi, I think you're really pretty I'm ____ what's your name?" Sorry but that doesn't work unless they're already really attracted to you, in which case it's a moot point because that's not the scenario.

 

No, not true, she may be flattered. Why not try it, you never know what might happen. Be courageous.

 

Get a book called "The Game" by Neil Strauss... It's an easy read and it covers all the points on how to approach girl without feeling rude or being afraid.

Def. a must read.

 

In my experience guides in books or on the internet are pointless beyond giving general advice and a few basic tips. Every girl you talk to is different and so is every guy reading this stuff, so there's no single way to do it. The knowledge and perspective you need to be successful are almost always learned on one's own; if it were the kind of thing you could teach there'd be no reason for everyone not to learn.

 

High five on that, I agree with this. You can't learn to be a good lover from a book. You have to learn on your own. With this said, what are you gonna do about seeing a beautiful women walking down the stree?. Are you gonna just ignore her and possibly lose out on a girl that could have actually been interested in you? I approach guys, so what I get turned down thats the worst that could happen. It sucks being turned down, but it is part of life and dating.


Tiffany

 

I would say yes and NO...

Every girl is different, as well as every human being, but the psychology behind us all is pretty much the same... It's kind like we are all running Windows...

 

but i'm not

though I doubt that has any relevance.

 

Yeah I'm not running Windows either. Hah