I want sex without feelings in a relationship

i actually just want real advice. what rules should be applied? in all seriousness.
cause im thinking about getting into something that no feelings are allowed.

please help me. dead serious.

 

yeah, i think the point has been made...

 

I charge $200 for the hour blindfolded.

No kissing or hugging.

No anal either. Condom and price non-negotiable.

 

okay. i think that is smarts.

but im kinda confused. if he wears a condom does that mean it's not touching it?

Brillance!

 

i actually apologized to the person who wrote me a weird, long pm about my life... if i offended them. i just made this thread to joke.

at the same time.. i TRULY am serious what ground rules ppl set down because ive never had to do that...

so in all SERIOUSNESS (for real) what rules would or do you make that you spell out?

 

there you go.

 

no S-E-X in front of the K-I-D-S

 

i thought you were drunk!

 

that WAS total brillance and im about ready to touch myself... well after i write up a contract.. you know for my smartz yo.

hehe ghostie. <33

 

kids? i think i ate them all. yeah i suck like that.

me? drunk? lmfao @ drunk. nahh

 

luckystripe...i've had a few of these...i wouldn't say no kissing during sex necessarily, altho i can see why you'd say that. i'd say no kissing at any other time, except for leading up to sex. okay like let me tell you what i do now with my fuck buddy.....i text him "what are you doing" he writes back "nothing come over" so i go over. we pretend like we're gonna watch tv but then we start messing around and have the sexy time. i guess we don't kiss during sex, hadn't thought about it really. after i usually kiss his chest a bit, and we do cuddle. in the morning, i kiss him goodbye, if i used mouthwash, and then i leave.

there are no feelings BUT sleeping with someone, even if there are no feelings, becomes difficult when you learn of the other ppl they're sleeping with. and as much as u try to hide it from each other, u will find out, and you will be surprised at how much it does actually hurt. but you'll get over it pretty quickly.

don't do it with a friend you will totally lose that friend.

 

it's because of the oxytocin.

it helps the bonding process between mates.

some people have natural oxytocin deficiencies, some people hyperload on it, so there are real biochemical reasons this sort of arrangement is so hard.

 

well in all seriousness.. cause i made this thread half as a joke, half seriousness. there is obviously a huge difference between fuck buddies and friends with benefits. ive tried fuck buddies before that are just purely that... and it is difficult for me to get the passion up. i guess i am better with friends with benefits. but that is typically where feelings spring up (or maybe always were there? hmmmm) or you can ruin a friendship. the thing is, i think ive been pretty good at the friends that fuck thing... never lost a friend.. but the feelings part HAS gotten in the way. ive been on both sides. we have never had to have rules. just know when to nicely cut it off when the storm is seen.. im not sure id want a purely fuck buddy... at the same time, i, by no means, need sex to be "like omgz i want to be with you forever"- every friend thing i have had was partially unspoken and partially spoken "i DO love you in some way... i AM (obviously) attrached to you or i would not be with you.. this DOES mean a lot to me"- yet it's easy to cut it off there n let that be that. no expectations.
but the more ppl tell me there needs to be spoken rules i wonder what they are and what needs to be said? cause hurt does happen.
but maybe fuck buddies and fwb are diff.
who knows.

 

Ive never met anyone who had rules, it just happens, and its carefree. and then the ppl get attatched to eachother about 50%

 

lame thread

 

on topic. what rules??

 

that was it: wear your lame threads. as in don't get all dressed up for each other...

 

I like dressing up in frog outfits. actually i like dressing like a pimp. hella fun

 

frog outfits always lead to feelings :toetap05:

 

yeah frogs are kinda irresistable.

what about toads? they have warts