Bitterness

I feel like in the last few years I have been bitten by the sharp, ugly pain of reality. I need to be softened in some way. Does having children help? Is it naive of me to suggest that having children will make me a more well rounded, tolerant and joyful individual?

 

yes.

 

No having children does not help. It's ok to be bitter once in awhile, look at me... I'm fine.

 

i suspect children will make you far more bitter.

unless you mean having children for dinner; a gourmet feast like that always relieves a little stress...

 

Face Eater do you have a sugarplum cottage?

 

I had some children myself, but they didn't satisfy me so I went back to having adults.

 

you need love

 

love does help my bitterness. I can be extremely bitter. I read way too much politics.
I find it hard not to. So much crazy shit happening in the world.
I can feel everyone's pain, and that makes me very bitter.

Also, a nice hour session with an acoustic instrument sure does the trick sometimes.

 

Why do ANYTHING? iggy:

 

if having children does help I'd hate to know how bitter my father was before my sister and I were born.

 

no doubt. i used to be so sweet.

 

It seems like an awful lot of people think having a child or two is a solution for all their problems, be it a shitty relationship or whatever else... and yet it almost always just makes matters much much worse. And yet people still keep doing it... Hmmm.

Anyhow... you need something that inspires you, makes you happy and like you don't ever wanna sleep again coz you don't want to miss anything. Yeah.. love would do the trick.

 

I don't have children so I can't say for certain. I would imagine it depends on the individual. As for how you feel about the world around you, I was quite bitter (even very bitter) when I was in my early 20s. I didn't know who I was and felt under pressure to be doing certain things in my life by a certain time.

Over the last few years I've learnt to accept who I am and accept that life is not always a bowl of cherries. My motto in life is "If it's meant to be it's meant to be." I try not to take life as seriously now. What's the point? There is so little of our lives that we are in control of. I just think enjoy it while I'm here and go with the flow...

 

Like children, I think love is another distraction.

 

I don't know about having a child making you softer, but it sure as hell will make you famous. If you are about to have a child may I be your agent?