When should I let her shave?

My 9.5 year old is asking how old she needs to be to start shaving her legs. I've been dreading this! What do you guys think a good age is for this?

 

id say 12-14..

 

Yeah I was gonna say 13.
I was 13 and its a good age lol.
But once you start... You wish you hadn't!

 

Does she have pubic/ underarm hair yet? I say when that happens since hair seems to get thicker and more noticeable.

 

you do know that over about the last ten years in first world nations there is a growing number of girls as young as six years of age and, boys as young as nine years of age going into puberty; by "puberty" i mean developing breasts, body hair, voice breaking, having sex AND, SEVEN YEAR OLD GIRLS GIVING BITH! this is happing due primarly too better dite/nutrition.

if your daughter has entered puberty...then let her shave. i would also suggest you get her on birth control too, unless...you like the title of grandma burberry. a nine year old does not have the skills to care for a baby. you might, be looking at the job of caring for your child's child untill, she grows up enough to learn those skills.

if your daughter could get pregnant at nine years of age, that is what you should be really be fearing big time! shaving for a nine year old is such a minor thing compaired to pregnancy for a nine year old!

 

^^ i think thats a little extreme/overboard though....

 

With my own daughter turning 9 in a few short months, I have been wondering about this as well. I had been planning on suggesting it to her at the same that her cycles began and/or when I noticed any thicker/darker hairs showing up on her legs or underarms. I know that for me that's about when I started "needing" to shave and had been hoping that would be about right for her as well.

So unless she suddenly becomes a hairy beast overnight OR chooses not to, I had been expecting that she would begin shaving somewhere right around 12.
love,
mom

 

Uhh...what the hell? Do you even have kids? That sounds quite extreme. I've never heard of a 7 year-old having a baby. The youngest I've heard is 10, and she was raped by her father. Just because you're able to get pregnant doesn't mean your going to have sex. The majority of teens do not end up pregnant. Sheesh...

 

Whoa friend, back the hell up. Just cause we can have sex doesn't mean we do. I didn't have sex until I was 14, and in my group of friends I'm the youngest.

I started shaving when my mom bought me my first razor, I do't know when that was. And I went on the pill when I asked for it (also at 14) you gotta have faith in your kids to do the right thing.

 

i started shaving when i was 12 i think. no reason to shave before that i dont think. no reason to shave at all of course, but i suppose when she feels like she wants to shave, thats about the time to do it. although, if i had a daughter i dont think id want her to remove her body hair so young, it just strikes me as a little creepy and weird.

 

D O N T S H A V E

 

This is an interesting topic. I occasionally shave, but more often than not I am unshaved. I believe shaving can be spiritual in the sense it is getting in touch with the part of yourself that is young and childlike. It does not have to be sexual, or to please a partner. I go long periods of time without shaving, and I find body hair very attractive and natural.

I don't definitely know how I would approach this with my daughter, but I can say what how I think I would handle it. I would allow her to shave when and if she feels she needs to. I would let her know that not everyone shaves, and it's ok not to. I think being exposed to people who do and don't shave would be ideal, to show that there is variety. I may go into the history of shaving a bit, and perhaps discuss societies expectations of women in regards to many things, not just shaving. I would ideally use it as a vehicle to open up that discussion. Even though it doesn't sound like it, I would be nonjudgmental about it. As I said, sometimes I shave. I think it's just important to have open dialog and understanding of why you are doing something, and if your are doing it because you want to (I am) or because it is expected.

 

yeah, do that i love when people word things well

 

I started shaving in 5th grade, because my hair is black and noticeable (I also have very pale Irish skin, which didn't help) and kids would call me a man and the girls would refuse to talk to me and the boys said I was disgusting. So I stole my mom's razor and started shaving. I don't know as far as what age should be appropriate. I only started because of the horrible things people would say to me/about me. If your daughter is perhaps more tan, or has blonder hair, it wouldn't be such a problem until puberty. Then, your daughter might also be of stronger character that I was at that age.

 

i started shaving when i was 10, right around the same time as i hit puberty. I think whenever she develops under arm hair is a good time.

 

also, as far as birth control goes, i think 9 is a bit too early. But maybe like 13 or so, or whenever she gets her first boyfriend. These days it can't be enough to trust your kids. I know could/would never be able to ask my mother about such a topic.

 

I didnt start shaving until i found the hair on my legs ugly lol but i'd say 12-14. or just when they feel its ugly to them, thats when they notice their bodies maturely. I felt much more self confident with shaved legs but with birth control, keep her away from the sex things, there is no need for a 9 yr old to feel sexually active, i didnt get on the pill till i was 18!

 

the youngest, i think, to give birth was under the age of 6, in brazil. the father was assumed the rapist, then cleared.

at any rate, i figure when it become very thick and a cause for embarassment for her (i got that a good deal later than my classmates) THEN let her shave if she wants. encourage her not to, tell her the reasons why we have body hair. but yes, i do believe, if a small girl is being heavily mocked for body hair, let her get rid of it. IT'S ONLY HAIR. it grows back.

 

I gave both my kids one male and one female a razor and a can of shaving cream when they turned 13.

Previously, my girl was asking about shaving. So far she has not used it. She is now 17. I kind of admire her grit on this. I sure couldn't do it.

Just recently my 15 year old boy shaved for the first time.

It's their choice. They shouldn't have to shave. If they want to, they should be to.

 

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