foreign marriage a good idea?

eh i'm french but i'm not flying off the handle. Theres multiple times i have heard about men from mexico or Cuba marrying women from CANADA and 2-3 months later they divorce. But you know, thats not everyone.

Yes i like standing my own ground and making my own decisions but sometimes you just have to sit back and listen. Not everyone has their crap together and understands how the real life HOUSE works till it really does works. and than fails!!

Some marriages work tremendously, i married my hubby met him from the internet we've been married 2.5 years together 6 years. I never thought i would ever date again till i met him.

Some ppls expectations are set so high they can hardly see straight but "I" would just sit back and relax. I understand you probably are forgien but don't let that get to you just because hes young and probably his relationship isn't going to last.

 

Just so you people know, ive already researched what is required before you can get a fiance visa, and i know about the afidavit of support. My mom is going to help me out with that.

My filipino friend didnt even make enough money when he filed his afidavit of support so he had to have his sister help when he brought his wife here.

This is his second wife and he has been married to her for 5 years now.

Actually they already have access to some things that we have here such as tv's, dvd players, cell phones, video karoke..etc.

Hate to say it but most american women do suck.

My fiance doesnt like people with bad attitude, i didnt tell her this, but its like: welcome to america.

I already know there are plenty of them on here.

 

Where in this thread did any of us say that? As a Filipino I would certainly have protested if this were the case.

 

yes, i can see why american women wouldn't take too kindly to yo=ou. you are extremely rude and misogynistic, and strong-willed women don't tolerate such behavior.

anyway, i really hope you get to spend at least a year or so in the same country as your fiance, living together or visiting frequently, before you decide to get married. i recommend you live with her family for a while so you understand her roots. that makes for a much healthier relationship. if you make it through this, then i wish you the best of luck in your future together. :cheers2:

 

i would reccommend for you to go to her country and spend a lil time in her shoes before her going to the USA.

JUST because YOU want to marry her doesn't always mean she wants to marry you and you really don't know if things will work out for the better or for the worse . You can be spending all kinds of money and in the end its a waste.

Spend some time with her before even deciding to even marry.

My hubby and i were together 1 yr back n forth going from the south to the North till he decided to marry me and he lived with me for 1 yr i was up North for 1 month till he decided we decided to live in between where our folks live. Its very very convenient and we have been married for 2.5 years and together 6 years. Take things slow and theres absolutely no need to rush.
I was engaged at 15, 17, 19, 21 and i was 24 when i was married.
Understand where HER family comes from and she should understand where you come from as well, not just 3 weeks and you know eachother like 30 years.
Some ppl are like that . But not many last.

 

If you really going to go trough with it I think you should spend sometime and scope out her family especially her mom.

So many women grow up like their moms.

Does her mom have a fat ass? Does her moms tits sag? Does her mom obey her dad? Does her dad have to threaten her mom to get her to work?

 

Oh my goodness. Where to even start?

You said:

First of all if you ask people for their opinions, naturally some of them aren’t going to agree with you. It is just plain rude to tell people to "shut up already" when they give you the opinions you ASKED for. Go ahead & explain why you disagree by all means, but understand that asking for opinions on a public board means that people with all sorts of opinions will reply.

Next, you said:

From this we can only surmise that this girl is a relative stranger. Three weeks is a VERY short time, to be basing a lifetime of marriage on. Regardless of who you may know that married after knowing someone for a week, a day, or 10 minutes... those people got lucky, and you may or may not enjoy that same luck.

And then you said:

I don't care WHAT your point is, this is the most SEXIST and RACIST thing I have read in quite some time. You don't talk about her looks, her personality, any shared interests you may have, whether she has a cute smile, how her religious background is cohesive with your own beliefs, whether she wants the same number of children as you, or even if her future goals are the same as yours... just that she is an Asian woman, and that means she's better than American women, and will respect you & be "into pleasing the guy." Do think a bit, about how that sounded to those of us who are responding to you. Maybe you didn't MEAN to sound completely pigheaded, but you do.

And finally, you said:

I'm not even going to mention discussing marriage when you can't pay a phone bill. The fact that you say it costs too much to call her, really shows everyone reading this exactly how much she's worth to you. Yes, phone bills are expensive. And international calls are EXORBITANTLY expensive. But we are talking about a future wife, someone you want to pay to bring over here, research green cards for, spend the rest of your life with, love, honor cherish and OBEY... and she's not even worth a phone call in over two months? Three movie rentals, one PS3 game OR two trips to Burger King would probably pay for a 10-minute phone call to the love of your life. Marriage is a lifetime of sacrifices & compromise between you & the other person. And yes, it starts BEFORE the wedding... if you ever want the wedding to be PAID for!

Marry an Asian girl. Marry a girl with purple spiky hair & 17 noserings. Marry another guy. Marry an elephant for all I care, but for heaven's sake, do it for the right reason.

Marriage is about LOVE!!!

love,
mom

 

Thank you for making a very good point

 

^^^ thanks mom!!!

by the way, i live in america and my hubby will tell you that i bend over backwards for him, give him infinite pleasure, and respect him with all my heart. and he does the same for me. lord, now more than ever i understand the effect the miserably low status quo has on people.... what a selfish world we live in.

 

Love is Love and marriage is only a 3 page legal document that ends in disillusionment and separation 65% of the time.

Foreign marriages are a legal binding arrangement, usually the female aggress to sex and house work and the male agrees to support her and give her a better life.
Usually when the male gets stupid and he is in love and will do anything for this girl he met 30 days ago he gets screwed over.

But foreign marriage agreements can be great for both people if both people are honest about it and keep to the agreement.

 

My filipino friend who arranged for me to meet her told me to quit asking all these other peoples opinions about it they do not know her or you and to just keep it secret from them.

I tried to show him this stuff my friend said on yahoo messenger and he refused to look at it he said to take it and burn it.

He even said to not even listen to what his sister has to say about it.

His wife knows this girl pretty good and she read the conversation i saved and she said no.

Not true.

My friend was trying to say this girl just wants to use me to get visa and my money and how they dont have flush toilets. He said thats what my filipino friend's sister told him.

My filipino friends sister has never met this girl or her family so she wouldnt know anything about her.


My friend twisted things and generalized based off something my filipino friends sister said.

She said some filipinas will marry and once they become a citizen they get a divorce.

She never said that girl will do that. But my friend is a liar and exaggerator.

I already know that about him.

 

You gotta be careful with that stuff, a lot of those Philippine girls arrive pregnant, they don’t have much birth control in a lot of those countries and it takes like a year to get them over here sometimes.

I almost made an agreement with a girl from England once that we could get married because she wanted a green card and I wanted to have a Europe union card.

But immigration in the U.S. and England is a major hassle and expensive and you can’t do it at the same time, so the idea was scraped.

 

This girl is shy and hasnt had a bf even. I heard she is still a virgin. It is a different culture than here in the US, so its not uncommon to find women 30 years of age and still virgins.

Here in the US some people start having sex at 13. I would have to say they have better values about sex and marriage than here in the US. I am pretty sure most have sex by 18 here but i dont know for sure.

Of course some areas of the phillipines they will meet for sex like Angelos city. I think Thailand has alot of prostitution but prob not so much in the Phillipines.