My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 yrs and now its ended

my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 yrs now, and i realy love him loads n id do anything for him. we have recently not been getting on after one thing and another. and today out of the blue he said "what do u think of our relationship at the moment, do you think its best if we go our own ways" and i replied "well we havent been getting oon lately i thinkmaybe its justt he end of a happy 2 yrs", i now i need to get over the situation but im realy upset, hve you got any ideas of what i shuold do??
thankx

 

Oh i'm really sorry to hear that. breaking up is always hard. It's a long process; where we need to get ourselves together and try to get used to "not being with the person you spend X time with".
I know what you feel, you're confused, sad, wanting to know why this has happened...you'll eventually find the answer, but in the meantime, you just need to let yourself be sad. that's normal, be sad, if you need to cry, do it, there's nothing better than letting your emotions out as they help you come to terms with your loss.
Perhaps, your relationship wasnt meant to be. it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all some might say. It's hard, but it happens to all of us at some point in our lives.
However silly this may sound, this might be good for you. Maybe you need some time for you only, you might be able to do things you havent done before and feel good about yourself.

sorry i cant give you a magic pill and make it all better. I wish i had something like that...

best of luck and hope you feel better soon.

 

If you want to get over him; don't talk to him, period (at least for a good while), keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy, and wait. The pain does go away, but it makes a slow exit. I highly recommend staying away from alcohol, as well, or any other depressants for that matter. I always wanted to sink into oblivion, and it always made it worse; that option was a very seductive, unhealthy desire.

 

yeah i forgot about that. I've been guilty of indulging myself with too many drinks in search of clearing my mind of painful thoughts as well as my heart...it makes it even worse. I cant say much cos i'm a little drunk now.

 

if it makes you feel any better.. i've been with my boyfriend over two years.. and IM the one thinking of ending things. its really fucking hard. i love him, but at the same time i need new experiences, i need to grow up.

so we're both miserable. i wish i was in your spot, things over with. i wish he would break up with me, so i wouldnt have to even think of what to say or do.
i dont really know what im saying.. hang in there.

 

I went through a break-up back in February. It was the same for me...we had been dating for two years, and things were just falling apart(the difference being she ended up cheating on me, instead of coming to me to talk about it). Not that it'll help you feel better, but it's really a good thing that it ended with communication. I'm not going to lie, the pain gets worse before it gets better...at least it did for me. Friends, family, and time are really the only things that will help. Keep yourself occupied, wake up every morning and say "I'm going to try something new today"...and do it. Don't hold in the tears or the pain, if you feel like crying, no matter where it is...do it. It's a lot worse holding it in, everytime you do, the pain sets on the heart like a weight, adding more and more each time. Just remember that you always have your friends at HipForum to come to...I know I'll be here!!!

Peace!