"why is it that alot of guys have such an aversion to tasting their own cum?" was the question, in another thread.... so now i'd like to ask: guys who are straight, why do you (do you?) feel so strongly about being straight, is your 'masculinity' really threatened so easily? are guys who are bi, what do you consider to be your masculinity? different? less? i'm wondering mainly because there are alot of things i'd like to do with/to my partner (and he's definetly a 'straight' guy) but i dont want to somehow step on this apparently very fragile masculinity and have him be uncomfortable or whatever in bed, knowing that i would want to defile his manliness like that...... but also just out of curiosity
I'm not sure I totally get your question,but I think I do.I've kissed a woman many times after cumming in her mouth,& for that matter,have even had my ass licked & fingered.That doesnt make me gay,or even bi for that matter.I have no attraction to men at all,but i'll do things that may be considered"unmanly" to some if my girl wants to.If you want to try things you think he might be uncomfortable with,talk to him before you play.ask him what he's cool & not cool with.If he's doing something to please you,it's not "defiling his manliness",& he should understand that & not be so insecure
Wow!, those long haired country boys ain't so backward as we thought. Nice reply! If the quote applies to your man, better find out about him NOW! If he thinks about himself like the countryboy, you've got no problems. To hell with fragile maculinity.
lol! well, yea from a female, bisexual perspective, yes, to hell with fragile masculity. as far as i can see, and through studying anthropology at uni, any particular 'masculinity' is entirely constructructed by society, as in, it means differents things to be 'male' in different social circumstances. thus there is no such objective, exissential thing as 'masculinity'. however, i know that our personas, who we are to others, and getting respect of those from others, as well as being able to feel they are 'solid' and 'real', is important to anyone's psychee.... afterall, although the west puts a ridiculous amount of emphasis on 'finding out who you are' as a teeneger, as if it were a legitimate goal in life, feeling that you are real and that you can have certainty about the legitimacy of your own thoughts and feelings seems pretty central to being 'stable', mentality speaking.... so is this fragile masculinity a myth? or is it a case of seeking acceptance? i guess if most of your social circle puts importance on being 'a man' in the standard way (whatever that may be....) then to fail to fulfill those expectations could lead to severe social reproccussions..... and who the hell isnt terrified of those!!! lol but since sociology and anthropology, as well as the growing acceptance that many many people are in fact gay or bisexual or somewhere more vague in between, have shown that men are not 'naturally' masculine in the typical, socially accepted way, and that your sexual identity is almost entirely constructed (minus the fact that you are born with a penis or a vagina).... bla bla bla ok lost my train of thought, but my point i was trying to get to: WHAT IS MASCULINITY? is it really something fragile, that can be easily and irreparably 'lost' or 'broken'? do bisexual (and gay) men realise the extent of the construction of sexual identity, and that however you portray yourself sexually to others is in fact just that: a portrayal? a message? so why be so troubled by a message which you have -to some extent- a hand in composing?
you should ask him if it makes him feel wierd or uncomfortable. our opinions realy dont matter anyways. communication is realy important.. so just ask him and if he likes it do that and if he doesn't dont. this is not a hard issue. (my gf kissing me after tasting my cum isn't wierd for me)
oh yea btw i'm not even with this person anymore (nothing to do with liking cum or not!!) so thanks for all your advice, but no longer needed i guess i also ment the question more generally too...
From a bisexual man (genderqueer though I may be), I don't see masculinity as tied to any particular sexual acts. Personally I see that sort of thinking as outdated anyway... what's inherently "masculine" or "feminine" anyway?
yep, from my point of view as a "bi" girl (albeit) i also think: is there really anythign *inherently* masculine or feminine? i dont seem to fit either exclusively, yet i am getting on with being me (a biological gurl) and my relationships with other people (biological gurlz and boiz) let me put it this way then: i dont think there are any personality traits/ acts/ thoughts/ etc that are *inherently* gender specific. would anyone disagree?
