i am absolutely crazy about this boy in my life. he makes my entire heart complete. i can't quite explain how he makes me feel, but what i can say is that i love him. now, the problem is that he doesn't want to sleep with me. or hasn't wanted to at least. now i KNOW he loves me back, that's not the problem. what he said was that he would feel too guilty taking my virginity (he is very experienced) at this point. i was wondering what could cause this? and is there anything i could do to ease his concerns? The things we have done are AMAZING, the things we talk about excite me to no end. I'm just so ready to take this further. It's frustrating.
...tell him that you really want it? That he shouldnt feel guilty about taking the virginity of someone who is A) an adult, and B) in love with him? just an idea.
a) i'm not technically an adult for a few months (i hit the wrong button, and can't figure out how to edit my profile yet) b)he says we have time, and i don't have to rush into things. i'm just offering more information to help anyone understand where we are at in our relationship.
Sounds to me as if he's being really kind, not taking advantage. Just be there and he'll probably come round. But as the old song went, 'If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.'
i guess i haven't thought of it as a favor before. i just figured since he was experienced and male that he would of course want to have sex. In fact, this just made my entire day. Thank you Englishman.
im sorry if this is insulting at all, but if he is as experienced as you say, hes probably has had girls that have loved him as much as you do and it probably turned out bad. Even if you say your ready, you could be wrong and he knows it. After all, you are a virgin. Just give him time, hes right, whats the rush?
maybe it's not so much that you're a virgin as it is that you're NOT LEGAL! there are a few men out there with a brain in their heads.
yeah really, what's the age of consent where you are? even if he's 18 and you're 17 that can make a pretty huge difference. you said you turn 18 soon right? maybe you'll get a birthday present.
where i live 17 is the age of consent. He's 20, but since it's within a 4 year range it's completely legal (trust me, i've looked this up.) And I've been with him for the past 6 months, but we've been friends for the past 5 years. He lost his virginity at 15, so I don't know what his hesitations are with me.
well, even if you are technically legal, the complications that can ensue from messin with a young virgin can be bad. are you still living at home? got protective parents in the picture? there could be other issues on his mind too. maybe he's worried about hurting you. maybe he's afraid you'll have regrets and blame him and he'll lose you. could be any number of things. prolly be best to ask him what's on his mind.
