I've never had much luck when it comes to relationships(granted, I'm still young), and up to now it didn't really bother me, I'd just take my "failures" as new experiences and stop worrying about it, and I even just got bored with one of the very few romantic relationships I had. Until a few months back, when I met this absolutely wonderful girl who seemed (and still seems) to condense everything I'd like in a girl. Everything was great, we took things slow, we talked for ridiculously long amounts of time, and the more I got to know her, the more happy I felt when she was around. Eventualy I caught myself thinking of her several times a day, and it was quite blissful. The thing is, two weeks ago I told her how I felt, and, to my surprise, it was a mutual feeling. Then, two days after that she told me she didn't feel stable enough to get into a relationship, and I understand and respect that, and I don't really mind if we're not a couple, I just want to share with her. But lately we hardly talk, and when we do she feels distant, and this frustrates me horribly. I don't really know what to do, because I'm the kind of person who respects other people's choices even if they go against my own (after all, I'm no better than they are), but on the other hand, I feel sad and I really don't want to have it end now. What's worse, I have a hard time focusing and doing the things that move me the most (art) since this has happened, because I can't seem to stop pondering this problem, to which I see no real solution. If you did, thanks for reading. I don't really know why I'm putting this on a forum.
if i were you i would just explain to her how id be ok with still being (best) friends, and that you respect her decision and you're not going to try any funny business. still hang out as friends and see where things go.. who knows what may happen.
Trouble is I already did that, the same day she told me she wasn't ok with a relationship. I've even told her I feel she's getting distant.
She probably feels guilty or like things have changed, just give her time I'm sure that she'll come around.
yes you gotta talk to her, work with her, let her explain why she isnt stable, somethin might have happened to her that she did not yet tell you about, if you're there for her and care, she will open her heart to you and love again. and dont worry about putting this n a forum, forums are sometimes better than peopl you know giving advice
