Ok, 1 st. you don't say how old you both are. Not that age matters, but if you 2 are under 18 your families may think oh this is a phase or depending on your religion, yes, it could make it very difficult. 2nd. Only you 2 know your families and depending again on your families religious values and such and again your ages, you may piss them off. But what I have found, (I am a adult(41) mind you) that your family is your infastructure. Now, when I came out to my family, I was in my 30's, I became disowned. Only now, do I have my sister in my corner. She is 39. the rest of my family has nothing to do w/me. Now, @ 41, I have no problem w/that. But again depending on your age and your maturity level it's a chance you take in life. 3rd. as far as friends are concearned, if they are your true friends as they say they are, that will never change. I lost friends that I had been friends w/for over 20yrs. I had absolutely no clue they were such homophobics. The friends I do have still and the new friends I have made as well as people that I remet after 20 yrs. are some of the most wonderful people in the world I have ever met. 4th. I guess what I'm trying to say to you is this, "Take chances in life". If you and your g/f feel it's time for you both to come out then do it. Consequences and all. But remember, if you are both under 18 and you depend on your parents for your daily living, ("gulp") stay in the closet, for both your sakes.
Tbh the only way to do this is to just not care about what other people think, it's none of their business, there will of course always be someone who will say something or w.e, you just really have to live with it, sadly. Be open to your parents, really, nothing else I can say. Not letting them know about certain things can just cuz unneeded drama. I pretty much agree with lutsko though.
thank you so much for your advice...we are both 18 and my family is pretty religious but not like over the top. it sucks tho cuz talysa is try to patch things up with her family after moving out last dec. but we both feel like we will not be happy until we come out.
