My ex fiance left me because she thinks she a lesbian. She's really confused but I'll give you the brief synopsis. She's very physically attracted to girls but not very romantically attracted to them. She's very romantically attracted to guys and she IS attracted physically to them EXCEPT she is absolutely repulsed by dick. She wants nothing more than to be with me again, she's in love with me and finds me very attractive but she just hates guy parts. Also, intercourse she said, was always very painful for her and it never really went all the way in. So that leads me to wonder two things. The first being that she has a physical problem with her vagina. If it always hurts her then she probably would be turned off and scared by dick. The second is that she's always been too turned off to really want it all the way in. So it's one of those "Which came first, the chicken or the egg?" type situations. What do you all think? I just don't understand how she can be very attracted to guys and so discusted by our parts. Vagina's not asthetically pleasing either, but being a straight guy I still an very attracted to it because of what it does. Does that make sense?
As I've said many times before, there's no such thing as Gay or Straight, just varying degrees of Bi, and this is no different in women as it is with men. The way you describe her physical sexual attraction for women over the romantic attraction is exactly the same as with me - I find both men & women sexually attractive, but I could never get romantically involved with a man. As far as the physical problems you are encountering with the vagina, this could well be due to insufficient foreplay, as the penis is not the only organ that has to change shape in order to achieve a successful penetration. The vagina also becomes aroused & swollen, so as to welcome the entry, as well as exuding a slippery mucus fluid, so as to lubricate the penis. All too often, the problem is that the man is too eager to complete the penetartion, so as to satisfy his own sexual longings, without spending enough time getting his partner sufficiently aroused which, in the long run, makes it easier & more enjoyable for both partners.
She'd be plenty wet and we'd use lube. I would always let the foreplay last until she actually told me she was ready. I don't think it was a problem of her not being prepared. But who knows, she did tell me that almost everything was faked after we split. I just don't understand how she can be so attracted to men but completely turned off by what makes us able to please her.
i dont see much of a point in tellingf you everything was faked if she wanted to get back with you....the only reason to say something like that after a split (whether or not its true) is to piss you off and make you doubt yourself. forget about her
