Barefoot At Friends House

I need some advice...

I'm going to be spending the week at a friends house. He spends most of his time barefoot, and he's not the most hygienic person I've ever met. As I'm more hygienic than he is, I don't see why he should have a problem with me going barefoot in his house, but when I went barefoot in my own house, he would look at my feet from time to time, as though he had a problem with my clean and beautiful feet. Now, I can remember when I stayed over his house last year, there was another mate staying over the night, we all slept barefoot, but I decided to put my socks back on in the morning, just incase I got a funny look from my friends. By the way, a long time ago I did ask my friend when I was at his house if I could go barefoot, he just gave me a funny look, which is quite weird, because he was not wearing socks. Anyway, the next morning when I put my socks back on, both of my friends remained barefoot for the rest of the day, and the host (the friend I've been talking about) didn't have a problem with the other guy going barefoot in his house (they both have yucky feet btw)! So, I'm going to be spending another week there soon, and I've decided to try to go barefoot as long as possible. But, I'm afraid that he might say something about it, which would really insult me. He's that kind of guy, he's not a nasty person, but he'll say something and try to make it seem nice, for example, he might say something like "Do you want to put your socks back on?" - btw, he'll be barefoot whilst making such a comment. So, my plan is to wear socks for the first night, but in the morning, remain barefoot, and see how long I last. But, I'm still a bit shy about it, what do I say to him if he makes a comment? I could really do with some encouragement.

 

Nothing like double standards! One of those things, like control freaks, that really makes me ugly!

So he and his fellow yukky footed friend get to be BF, but you, with cared for, clean, and cute feet have to cover up? I don't think so---

I'll re read your post to make sure I didn't miss something, which is possible, given how tired I am right now. But this is total garbage. I've read your posts on this board for over a year, and your attitude about all this is wonderful, and you shouldn't bow down ever except in those few places where bf is forbidden. But that's for another thread.

 

Hey Cool Spruce!

Thanks for the kind words. You've really put things into perspective for me. I've known this guy for years, and if it's all right for him to go barefoot in my company, then I shall go barefoot in his company. If he doesn't like it, I'll know that he's not a good friend. If he does point out that I'm not wearing any socks, I can just say: "That makes two of us!" or I could just ask: "You don't mind do you?". At least then I'll know for sure. I'll just have to do it, I don't care anymore, I've stayed over his house on many occasions, and he can't expect me to wear socks 24/7.

 

You got it! As in, Excellent. Have a good time and let us know how things go for you.

 

Go bare and stay bare!!!!!!! It is a part of who you are and you shouldn't embarassed by it. If he and his friend are bare, why are they making comments about you being barefoot? That doesn't make any sense. And if they have ugly feet, they shouldn't be going bare anyway. If the fact that his house isn't too clean doesn't bother, show off your great feet and don't worry about it. If he does make rude comments about it, then he ain't a true friend in the first place!

 

Just show up barefoot or show up in flip-flops and slip them off as if it's no big deal. Don't talk about it. Maybe your friend is squeamish about talking about bare feet and gets all uptight about it when it's talked about. Just be calm, cool, and collected, and go barefoot as if it's no big deal. Don't talk about it unless he brings it up. Perhaps he'll act like it's no big deal at all if it's not even mentioned.

It sucks that he won't act like it's no big deal when you talk about it or ask about it...but if you just do it, he might act like it's no big deal.

 

Thanks for the support!

Perhaps he wont mention it, I could just be getting myself worked up if I assume that he's going to make comments about me going barefoot in his house. This Saturday I'll get into my PJs early so that I have a chance to remove my socks. It's better than just turning up barefoot, that would probably freak him out. Thanks again, everyone!

 

generally speaking i've never had troubles being the sole barefoot guest in friends'houses except for one guy who asked me years ago not to try that again and so
ended that we never met again. oops not correct.
it happened two weeks ago. while buying newspapers. he didnt comment about the protracted lack of shoes, if we dont take my bike into account as "footwear".
stoners never complain about bare feet. square ones sometimes do.

 

Well, I've just spent the first night at my friend's house. I'm not barefoot at the moment, that's because I'm not going to be staying over for the rest of the week until tomorrow, so last night was just a practice. I'm going to be going back to his house tomorrow, and I'll be in his company for the rest of the week. Anyway, I decided to get barefoot just before going to sleep. In the morning, I got out of bed still in my barefeet and walked into the bathroom to get washed and changed. He didn't seem to have a problem with me going barefoot. When I got changed I was still in my barefeet, I left my socks in his room. So, I went back into his room and I must admit, he did stare at my feet for about a second, I found this a bit uncomfortable, but at least he didn't say anything about it. I then put on my clean socks and went back home. As I said, I'm going to be returning to his house for the week tomorrow, but I'm not as worried as I was, so I'm just going to go for it. I'll try to stay barefoot for the whole week, and as long as he doesn't say anything about it, I'll be happy

Thank you all for your support!

 

do what you want to do and keep those feet bare. it is summer and it is too hot for shoes anyway. be true to your self in this shod crazed society. good luck and have a fun barefoot week.

 

Okay! Now, I've just been going barefoot in my PJs until now. When I got changed this morning I decided to go barefoot. When I went back into my friend's room he was on the computer, and what do you know he was barefoot. Upon discovering that I too was barefoot, he decided to get up and put his socks on. He then made a comment and said "I can see your feet!" in a joking kind of way. But, he didn't need to make that comment. And, if I hadn't been barefoot this morning, he would not have put his socks back on. I find this quite rude, and have chosen not to speak to him this morning. Now, last night I got into my PJs and went barefoot, and he didn't seem to have a problem with this at all. In fact, he asked if I wanted to go downstairs and watch a DVD, which gave me the impression that he had no problem with me going barefoot in his house. But, after what he said, I didn't have much choice but to put my socks on. I knew what he was getting at. I should have made some excuse like "I don't have any clean socks!", but I honestly don't feel comfortable in the company of someone who has a problem with my bare and beautiful feet. He's now left the room to "freshen up", and I wont be surprised if he returns without socks on. Tonight, I'm going to go barefoot when I get into my PJs, and if he does say anything like that again, I'll choose to ignore him!

 

CT, you really have to lighten up about this whole thing! I'm willing to bet that the reason your friend gives you weird looks is because you're kinda being a bit weird about it yourself - being barefoot is not a big deal, do it if you want to do it, and if you don't, don't! Stop analysing everything so closely and do what comes naturally and the vibes you'll give off will almost certainly counter or prevent any weird looks or the like.

 

cutetoes, just go barefoot. if your friend's eyes bug out enough to pop out of socket then that is his problem not yours. keep your feet bare, be comfortable, be yourself.

 

Exactly, man. You are totally afraid of going barefoot, and it's showing and making your friend nervous. Just act like it's nothing, take the joke as a joke, and relax in your bare feet. You also should start wearing sandals, too. Then, you have the most excellent excuse for wearing no socks - you didn't bring any!

 

It's all right. I spent two hole days barefoot because I ran out of socks. He didn't seem to mind, neither did the two other friends who stayed over.

 

That's cool man. I still think you should at least start wearing sandals...but everywhere. That'll be liberating in and of itself and is a good step toward going barefoot everywhere

 

I agree with Kay-E-Dee. You're analysing too much, making yourself totally dependent of your 'friend' - can you really say he IS a friend? He's barefoot himself, so why shouldn't you be? If you're putting your socks on with every weird look from him, you're getting nowhere!

 

Now the truth comes out! It always does. You raise all this fuss just as a ruse to getting all of us to buy you some new socks. DON'T FALL FOR THIS SCAM!

 

Dude, have you considered the idea that you might have a serious phobia of being barefoot? The only way to work through this phobia is to expose yourself to it and just go barefoot. I know, sometimes I get nervous about going to a place barefoot when I haven't tried it before, but I just do it and see what happens.

 

Yes you are absolutely right stop worrying and just do it lifes to short to procrastinate!