I have never been with a girl before.

I know what you're thinking: is this guy for real? And the answer is yes! I have never been with a girl in my entire life! I'm going to be 18 soon, graduating this year, and I have never been out with a girl in my entire life. I am simply too scared to talk to girls. I get anxious, start to get butterflies in my stomach, and almost feel like throwing up when a girl approaches me, ESPECIALLY in a flirtatious manner. When they ask for my name, smiling at me, or maybe ask me what's up, I feel paralyzed, I stumble on my words, and begin to sweat profusely, all the while thinking to myself, "This girl has no interest me. She just wants to embarrass me." I have NEVER approached a girl on my own, simply because I feel there is a very high possibility that I will get REJECTED. And I won't be able to escape the feeling of rejection since I will eventually see her again. Sure, I can be friendly with girls, but I just can't be manly. I am just a boy when I am around women. On top of this, I have no friends. I am pretty much a social outcast in my school. Why the hell would any girl have an interest in me? I mean, I know I get compliments about my looks from some girls, but it's not like they are interested in me in THAT kind of way. I feel like such a loser, so very lonely, sometimes. The only thing I'm actually good at is playing videogames. I'm not athletic at ALL. I don't play or even watch sports. The only thing I like to do that involves my body is weight lifting. I lift weights all the time so I can be as muscular as possible so maybe one day girls will actually notice me. But in the end, I just land flat on my face. Instead of putting on muscle, I put on fat. My late night binges and depression made me that way and now it's tough losing the weight. I can't stop eating, can't stop playing videogames, can't stop socializing with strangers online instead of real life, and can't stop feeling like it's the end of the world whenever a girl makes eye contact with me and smiles. The farthest I ever went with a girl was when I was 13. She took me to a private spot with all my friends and made out with me and everyone told me I should go out with her and guess what I did? Nothing. I just felt that I was just going to get rejected and all my friends would make fun of me. I honestly don't know what to do anymore...

 

conquer your fear of rejection, by going and putting yourself in a position to get rejected. take risks you pussy!

 

yeah dude i was in the same situation in middle school, you just need to man up!!
especially since you're heading towards college right??
what a perfect place to meet a bunch of ladiesss

 

I'm going to agree with the above post. Put yourself out there and embrace the rejection if it comes. What have you got to lose? You will only gain experience in the process. There is an equal enough chance that you won't be rejected, so you might as well try. And about your age, you're 18. You're still young and have many experiences to come yet. I know a few virgin males my age who are just experiencing the dating/ sex world for the first time. Don't worry and stop putting yourself down.

 

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I didn't kiss anyone until I was nearly 19, went through a whole year of college and everything! Not because I was scared, but, I just hadn't found the right person!!!

I was a late starter too and I say just go out and live your life. You only get one of them and I'm sure that everything is going on in your head and people do actually like you and girls would like to get to know you too

You wouldn't care what people thought about you, if you realised how seldom they actually did! ..... I think this is a great quote, as I know as I have suffered from self cousciousness in my past too, but, I think of this and then realise that everyone else is too busy wondering about how they are being percieved to think about what you are up to.

Just be yourself and live your life. Your only 18, get out there, smile and enjot rhis spontaneous life... live the moment and appreciate the gift you have been given and everything will come together for you!

Hope this helps and you find a nice girl that deserves you and who you can share your life with!

Peace, Love and Happiness!
hippyhappy xo

 

It doesn't get any easier with time dude. I'm 20, 2 years into college and in the same boat. Just break out, if you can. I know it's easier said than done but it's all I can provide.

 

Out of all the responses here, HippyHappy seems to have a grasp of what you should do.

I never went with a girl in high school but it was two lifetimes ago. Things were probably simpler then. I don't think I was unusual either - had a few buds that I would hang with and none of us had much experience with girls.

I would say just quit trying - relax - don't worry about it. You are not on an assignment to meet a girl by a certain age or time period, so you can't fail some mission. When you are not pursuing sometimes it is easier to just meet a girl who will be interested in you (yeah, they get tired of being pursued).

Sometimes things just fall into place when they are supposed to.