Hi guys, I am 23yo male, who has been in a long relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years. I have only had one sexual encouter with a man when i was 16 and i loved every moment of it. I then meet my girlfriend and love doing things with her. I havent told her that i think im bi-sexual but ately i have been out in Birmingham and i have been eyeing up guys and once got really tempted. I dont seem to be into girls as much as i did, im just confused on what should i do, should i do something with a guy behind my gfs back and see if i really want it, should i break up with her although i love her and dont want to loose her, but i want to have another experience with another guy!! Please any suggestions or ideas would be grand!! Cheers guys Jareth1985
Experiment with other guys first (one night stand kinda thing), and then see how it goes and if you think you are better with guys then brake up with your girlfriend and get with some guys.
i am in a very similar situation...... i think I am going to try to just experiment a couple of times with some other women and if I decide that I really want it, then I am just going to break up with my BF of 2 years..... I say experiment and find out what you want...... it's better to do it now than to get married or something and then divorce when you realize that you really want to be with men.
Thats cheating... cant you people use porn? or does it have to be another person?? Also, I think this onenight stand business is kinda dangerous... you could get jumped....
I dunno, I think a lot of "straight" folks kinda get off on gay porn, maybe just because it's kinda kinky for them. Besides there just isn't any substitute for a live, warm body who responds to you as you respond to them. On the cheating part, hummm, yeah but how else is he gonna figure this out. It's kinda like the difference between reading something in a book or experiencing it first hand.
i think u should take a brake with ur gf and then fool around with guys maby u just love her as a friend and dont really like girls in a sexual way
- porn is one thing having sex is anougher - as for the STD issue - yes there is that but if both of you use a condom and lube is is safe.
You have two approaches as pointed out here. You need to explore yourself to determine if these feelings for men are actually what you are about. You can do this on the down low (or "cheating" as inexperienced ppl like to call it). I don't know what vows of monogamy you made with your GF, but guys stepping outside of monogamy is quite common and the natural norm of our species. (all else is religious/legal construct). The other approach would be upfront with the GF, explain exactly what you explained here and tell her that you love her but need to explore this other part of you. Of course this revelation may send GF packing. You would know that about her better than we. After you find out where you're at you and GF take it from there. If you are gay, you and GF can still be best friends and be thankful your commitment to each other didn't get more involved (marriage and kids) If you are bi, you may still have a relationship with GF if she can accommodate your expanded sexuality and give you freedom to have an occassional night out with the boys. Polyamory is even an outside possibility.
