boys i need your help

Warning: Don't let this devolve into personal attacks on the OP. Regardless of whether or not you agree with her choice of companion, stay on topic.

 

But isnt it ILLEGAL????

 

I'm not attempting an attack here, and Danger, you know me well enough to know I wouldn't, but I am curious about this little slip of information myself. And I just don't want to see anyone get hurt.

 

It's a valid question, I've just seen plenty of these things get escalated when valid questions are risen. It's easier to draw a line in the sand from the beginning rather than waiting for the lines to get blurred between what is an attack and what isn't.

On topic, I love the taste of steak, I'm also a strict vegetarian. It's not a lie for me to say either, as i once ate steak and it was awesome, but i haven't eaten meat in 4 years. So while the OP may have drank previously with her bf, that doenst mean she continues to do so. That being said, an 'anymore' placed in the 'I don't even drink with him' would perhaps have been prudent.

As an aside, a 22 year old dating a 15 year old signals something is amiss. Either his intentions are not as pure as you assume, or the 22 year old is very underdeveloped to be emotionally and mentally matched by a 15 year old. I hope its the latter.

 

I agree with Moose,

Look, I know you think your mature and ready to handle the world. But there is something unnerving about a 22 year old wanting to date a 15 year old. As Moose said, it's either something immature about him, or something dangerous about him.

Here, how about this. Name 5 things you guys have in common. If you can name 5 things for me, I'll bless your relationship completely.

If you can't name 5 things, then please, do yourself a favor and be VERY VERY CAREFUL.

I'd reccomend you breaking it off. If you're not taking my advice on that, please take the care option into consideration. And it's been a week and you're 15. IMO you should be waiting for your sake... not for his.

 

I agree 125%. I just don't want to see anything happen to you. And it's not that we're trying to judge a guy we don't know. It's just that...well, a "typical" 22 year old will not have any interest in a 15 year old, no matter what they are like. You might be the most awesome person on earth, and I actually do happen to be 22, for the sake of comparison. But I will not EVER consider dating someone that is that far underage, irregardless.

The thing is, you might have alot of little things in common...music, tv, food. But the truly important topics...you can't really, because you haven't been through many of the crucial life lessons that seperate a 22 year old from a 15 year old. I mean no disrespect, it's just something that you'll fully understand once you reach our age.

For now, you should just enjoy your life, date casually, WITHIN your own age group, and not worry so much about being in love. That is advice I wish I had followed myself at your age.

 

Stay the fuck away from that guy, been 22 and dating a 15 year old girl is truly ugly. It just doesn't go together.

 

1. we both like the same music and movies and books.
2. we both are very shy around people we like
3. we have alot of the same beliefs
4. we both like sports
5. we both cant stand lier and cheater and backstabbers and are tired of getting hurt. so we are both being very careful with this whole dating thing.

you know what...if you guys dont belive that he is a nice guy then i dont know what to tell you. but w/e. i like him and if i get hurt it'll be my own fault. but im not going to dump him until i have a reason to.

and btw...we never got drunk or high. it was supposed to say he.

and another thing...he's not a "typical" 22 year old guy. he's different. he doesnt go out and drink everynight and he doesnt just wanna get laid. he used to be like that before i knew him but he's changed. even his best friend who he has known for years says so.

 

and yeah its illegal if we have sex. but we're not gonna. all i wanted from you people is to help me decide whether i should do it with him or not and i've decided. and when we are ready(which wont be for quite a while) then no one has to known that we've done it. you can only get in trouble for something if you get caught.

 

All things considered, the more I hear the more I'm convinced this is a bad idea. Just be careful, okay?

 

i will be careful.

 

I'm not a boy.... but as a girl whitney, I don't understand the appeal of a guy who's in his twenties and wants something to do with a 15 year old girl? To me, that's just pathetic.. When you're 22 are you going to be concerned with or trying to build a relationship with someone who is a sophomore in high school?

Dude that's like my little sister's age. If a 22 year old guy came anywhere near her I think I'd threaten his life.

Whitney be smart.

 

im just kind of loling


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that was me loling

 

OK, it seems I'm finding this thread kinda late, tho it's been just a few days - lots of comments coming and going.
That notwithstanding, let me add my for what it's worth. :beatdeadhorse5:

My daddy was 23 and my momma 14 when they first got together. So, guess I don't see anything so weird, but things were different in the 1940s. Actually my dad was scared and married her when he found out he violated the Mann Act. But, that is history.

Your 22-year-old is hopefully developmentally disabled. That may be a legal defense when he does get caught having sex with an underage kid. (there is always the risk of getting caught - look up Michael Hardwick vs Bowers).

So, when he does get caught he will do many years in prison and be on a sexual offenders registry FOR LIFE after he gets out. He will not be able to live in Miami Beach because the overreactive stupid commissioners here have made the boundaries larger than the island, so he would have to live under a bridge with all the other sex offenders who can't find housing.

If he finds a place to live 1K feet from any school, park or playground, he will have to register everyplace he lives and his neighbors will all be warned of his presence, putting his life in danger from some vigilante nutcase.

Now, show your BF what I have written - just in case he hasn't got a clue how dangerous his activities with an underage girl are. If you think you really love him, then show him this and suggest he wait for one or three years, depending on which state you live in.

Because it doesn't matter how much you love him or how neat a guy he is, if he has sex with you he runs some serious risk of messing up the rest of his life. He would have to be extremely reckless or retarded to do something like that.

 

Why is age so important to people. It is just a freaking number. It doesn't say anything about the person that she is with. He sounds like a good guy, but sweetie... Please don't have sex until you are 100% about him. Good luck I really hope it works out.

 

Age is important because the physical and emotional development and needs of a 15 and 22 year old should be vastly different.

 

^Exactly. Age DOES matter. As years progress so does mental maturity, life experiences, and obviously physical changes (this includes the actual structure of the brain).

Not to mention age can fuck up a person's life like SHale explained.

In the teen/early 20s, age is a huge something, and you are blind to ignore it

 

this will end poorly.

What, you're suggesting because she doesn't have a fully formed pre-frontal cortex (the strongest logic and reasoning bit of the brain) she isn't going to be able to make logical reasonable decisions?

 

I know this is a little late but the discussion is what is important here

No, I'm not saying that because the brain is not complete in growth you CAN'T make a logical decision, just that there are high chances the choices you make (especially about this subject) will be regretted in the future-> which allowed time for experience/wisdom and actual physical brain growth

 

i agree with the be careful im not going toi say dumb him but think and be smart listen to ppl and take their advice its free so u know its can be true
my sister had the this happen to her it ended very bad (mainly for the guy a brokin knee can sux) he was the same very kind understanding all of HIS friends and EX's spoke highly of him and he tryed to have sex with my sis forcefully she got away told me and my bro. we cought up with him he tryrd to talk his way out and even siad my sis antagonized him and i broke his knee with my bat . his own fault.
anyway all im saying is be very careful i dont want to make u scared or uneasy and if all of use all wrong and i hope we are congrats ur a luck person just remeber he tryes any thing go for the ears finger or going the eys and noise work well

ur still young what do u hope to gain from this realtionship and how does ur parents and family feel about this