what do you guys do at work? Do you let others know you are gay or do you keep it to yourself? When do you tell them? What if you work with them and its getting harder to hide it. i hate having to come out again.
i dont tell i go to work to work if they asked i would tell and i wouldnt hide it i just wouldnt make it obvious but i guess if ur close with ur coworkers and like go for drinks or w/e then maby they should know but i dont see the point in telling every one i come across in my day to day my sexual preference
how do you avoid it though? I work with just 4 other guys and they are always talking about girls or "not being gay" all the time. My job ends in 2 weeks though, and then its back to college, so i guess it doesn't matter too much.
hmm you shouldn't have to avoid it if you're already out but i guess it also depends on your line of work or what kind of people your around.
I work with 4 bible-thumping, narrowminded, repugs so telling them isn't going to happen. they already think I'm a bit off because I don't believe in god and hate bush and say he's the worst president ever.
i would like to tell the people at work that I am bi, especially since there is this beautiful girl I work with that I am interested in. but the boss is trying to hook me up with her son haha..... he's amazing too, but I like the girl more lol
Yeah, I kind of just "play along with it" but, its gets annoying pretending to be someone I am not. And 87s, im out, but not TOTALLY out. I am pretty much out to friends, but thats about it. I got my leg and arm out of the closet =)
Well I work for a womens retail chain, don't really work with many guys, so dont have to deal with boys club problems
The people i work with are cool They all know I'm gay, even though i didn 't tell them...one of my best friends who works there told them instead... I didn't even know they knew i was gay until last week when my friend told me she though our assistant manager was gay...she got the impression from him because when she told them i was gay (this is how they found out) he got all excited.. her other reason was "well...that and just LOOK at him" but no, none of them treat me any different even though they make all the jokes straight guys do and even use the word "gay" as people do. I dont mind though because i can tell its all in good humour. I guess i'm more of the "dont tell them unless they ask, or just let them guess themselves" sort of person. ~G
I think if you start a job, you can play it so that you don't hide it and don't announce it. In other words, you deal with coming out by just acting like you already have. If someone outright asks, I'll tell them, but I don't feel obligated to tell anyone either. That said, if I'd started a job and already been "in the closet" around people (e.g. pretended to like the ladies, actually lying rather than avoiding the issue), I'd be wary of coming out to colleagues. Ultimately it's none of their business either way, but people don't like being deceived. You're likely to experience more animosity from the same people if you've lied about your sexuality than if you've never made it a secret. But yeah, really, it's no-one's business but your own who knows. Out and proud and all, but unless your job involves having sex with people you can keep work and sex separate and have no reason to feel bad about it. If you're in the latter situation though, I dunno, how attached are you to the job?
I am quite friendly with many of my co-workers, and I have strong friendships with many of them outside of work. I don't particularly remember when they "found out" I was gay, but my sister knew, and she worked there before me. I doubt she told anyone, though. In fact, the only reason it's now a well-known fact at my job is because I got into a very fucked up relationship with another one of my female co-workers. It's quite a long story, but no one seems to care. I still here gay jokes occasionally, and as long as they're in good taste I don't have a problem hearing them or laughing with them. I also know hundreds of people who are not the least bit homophobic, yet use gay as a synonym for stupid ("School is so gay!"). That doesn't bother me either, in the right context. I probably wouldn't mention it unless someone asked directly/indirectly or if it somehow came up in conversation. If the idea of coming out to your co-workers makes you uncomfortable, then by all means, don't say anything. I wouldn't go out of my way to seem straight or pretend to be straight, but I wouldn't necessarily go up to a co-worker one day and say, "Hey, dude. Did you know I'm gay?"
Word! I'm totally open at school. I mean, I'm not out to let EVERYONE know, but I don't pretend I'm straight. All my friends know, most other people seem to know too and I get no trouble for it =/
- same kinda thing here - i mean first of all there are always the people who will be gay basher's but that is there problem. - Ignore them and stand up for yourself. 2nd of all - as said before when you start a job be yourself but don't shout out your sexuality - may not total impress some people.
