ive been having alot of problems with my sister lately..she recently had a kid, and i really wanna start a relationship with her again but it seems everytime we see eachother theres this wall between us, ar there any rainbow sisters out there that could help me find a way to rebuild my relationship with her....i just dont want my neice to grow up and not have an uncle she can love
im not a sister but i know a thing or two about healing old wounds.you cant force a relationship. no matter who its with. both parties must want to rebuild the relationship and both parties must recognize that there are old wounds that need to be healed,that the past is the past and you cant go back and change it,only forgive and move on.. theres nothing you alone can do to rebuild the relationship if shes not willing to do her part. thats a cold hard fact. the only thing you can do is stay in touch and let her know you love her and care for her and her child,without being overbearing and intrusive in there lives. i dont know how recently she had the kid but i do know pregnancy and child birth causes a LOT of hormonal changes in a woman and in many it can cause there emotions to get all out of whack. perhaps the time for healing those old wounds isnt right because of that. your original post is a bit vague to go much farther on suggestions. perhaps you could tell us a little about her,what caused yall to drift apart,how long yall have been estranged,who else is involved in yalls relationship etc.. all these things will have a bearing on any advice anyone can give..
theres always been these problems with my family, its mostly that me and her got along really well before she moved out of the house and then i started doing stupid stuff. i vroke into her house one day and got arrested she didnt talk to me for a while after that. then i had a psychotic breakdown a few years later which didnt help because i couldnt really communicate well with her. i just want her to know i care and want a good relationship, even though i dont think she does.
sounds like her trust was violated initially and then when you lost it ,,im sure that didnt help her image of you.. time heals all wounds.. the best advice i can give you in the mean time is,actions speak louder than words. your going to have to show your doing better mentally and that your not going to fuck up or nut up anymore.. good fortune...
Have you changed whatever was causing you to do stupid stuff? Are you maintaining a healthy lifestyle and doing whatever is needed to make sure you don't have another breakdown? If you are...the next step might be to appologize for the past and tell her that you want to be a part of your neice's life. Then once that fence has gotten its first patch, ask your sister to set the beginning guidelines for your interaction with the child. Start slowly & hopefully she will begin to trust you with time.
