boys i need your help

my mind is make up but im still bein careful with him in case that is all he wants. but ifs he's just acting sweet he must be a pretty damn good actor. im sick right now and patrick just texted me sayin that brandon wishes i was home so he could make me soup and give me a hug. and then he complained of how im all he's been talking about for the last couple days. lol.

and i am planning on waiting til its been 2 monthes at least. i should be able to figure it out by then. and if not then i'll just make him wait longer.

and btw, age is nothing but a number. i know people that been happily married for years who have more of an age difference than us.

and i dont care if it ends up to be a lasting serios relationship...it would be nice but really all im looking for is one guys to prove to me that not all guys are the same. not saying that it has to work out. im just saying that if we do break up its not because all he wants is to get in my pants or because he cheated on me. cuz thats how all the other guys have been so far.

 

guarantee 100% you would regret it later

dump this dude. he's a low-life creep playing with girls way too young for him.
If you like older guys at least keep it in highschool...
Don't be stupid now

 

During puberty (which is not complete until around early 20s for women, mid 20s for men) age is very much more than a number.

The brain is hugely affected and changed during puberty. Your thought processes as well as the physical connections in the brain, specifically the frontal lobe, are all changing.

The frontal lobe of the brain is the main source for decision making and judgment, and it isn't fully developed until you are well out of puberty.

Because it takes time to develop a brain completely, it is no doubt that however mature you may act, you are still less developed and not as mature as you will become.

It is a sign of maturity and wisdom to accept these things and take them into consideration.

Age is much more than a number.

 

You sound just like me when I was 14. I dated a guy 5 years older then me and he turned out being a creep. He was ok with waiting too, then he wasn't. Then he started beating me up. I think it's fucking gross when older guys prey on young women. I agree 10000% with Purp. Dump this dude and date someone your OWN age. Older guys like virgins. I bet you this guy isn't any different.

 

you may be right. but i wanna give him a chance at least. i mean if he turns out to be a creep then oh well...im used to it.

and if he ever put his hands on me like that i will make it so he wont be able to have kids. one kick is all it takes.

 

^Real life experience

I have a lot of friends that are girls that have dated older guys, and are just now realizing they've been used this whole time.

It's not as cool as it seems, and later you will realize that you are out of your league. (And to be honest, in the wrong stadium. You are messing with messed up guys.)

Normal guys don't want to deal with girls 7 years younger than them. Why do you think people make jokes about older guys dating younger girls? It's fucking weird as shit and wrong...

Do you wonder WHY it is illegal ever? THINK, girl. You obviously have a good head on your shoulders, don't make stupid decisions.

Be real here.

 

That is the biggest load of shit. IF you don't know what it's like to be beaten up by a guy then don't fucking tell me how easy it is to fix the fucking problem. WELCOME to the REAL world. Older men who go after girls that young ARE creeps. He's taking advantage of the fact you don't have real world expierence.

 

dont judge him just because of his age! im not dumping hi. he hasnt given me a reason to yet. i understand where you guys are coming from but i have to make my own mistakes. and just because you know people who have been in this situation before and been treated like shit or used doesnt mean he's the same way. if he turns out to be that way then so what. i'll admit it if you guys are right bt until then i think ya'll should do as my mother says. if you cant say anything nice then dont say anything at all. because i am taking what you say into consideration and inwatchin out for any proof that what your saying is true. but for right now im going to trust him a little and give him a chance. if i think somethin is up then i'll dump him.

 

...we aren't saying anything nice, but we aren't saying anything mean.

we are looking out for you. You asked our opinion, and the general consensus is that a 22 year old "dating" a 15 year old is a little fucked up

 

^word

 

is he the one buying alcohol for you guys? at 15 you probably don't know how to handle it yet... and at 22 he probably does. Be very careful.

 

big time trouble in the making here.
Man, where the hell is dad?

 

no. i dont even drink with him. and im not gonna. that way i know that i will make the right decision and dont do anything with him until im ready to.

 

I'm jumping on the wtf bandwagon. I think every guy here will agree with me it's just not normal to be going after 15 year olds at 22. If I had a 22 year old friend that started dating a 15 year old I think I'd stop talking to him, it's just creepy. And no, despite what you think, you're not special above the other 15 year old girls. Everyone thinks they're right and invincible at 15. And age might just be a number, and say the difference between someone that's 30 and 37 isn't that big, the difference between a 15-22 year old is massive. Jesus I'm not even 22 yet but how much you change every year as a teenager is ridiculous.

 

well i dont care what you guys say, im not dumping him. im just gonna be careful. you guys dont know him and you dont know how we act together. he never tries to touch me anywhere but my hand to hold it and he hasnt once brought up anythin having to do with sex or going any further than what we've done already. and all we've done is kiss on the lips...we havent even made out yet. he doesnt use any stupid lines that most guys use to get girls either. and he doesnt even flirt around with other girls and when we met he didnt even flirt with me cuz he was shy.

so he's not a creep. he's a very sweet, very nice guy.

btw...the reason im sayin that he aint a creep is cuz i know alot of his ex's and he never cheated on a girl or pushed her to go further than she was willing to go. i asked the girls that he's slept with and they all said that they dated him for quite sometime and he still never brought it up. the girls were the ones to ask him if he wanted to do it.

and even if he does try anything, i can say no. and i will say no until im ready. no matter what he says to try and convince me. end of discussion.

 

WTF Why are you asking our advice?? Seems like you already have your mind made up,so keep doing what you are doing.Just please keep us informed,its a trainwreck waiting to happen.And I just had to respond after you made the coment about talking to ALL his exs.Were they 12?? He has major issues!!Grown men DONT date CHILDREN PERIOD!!Now thats the end of disscusion.Peace

 

Just proof that you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship in general.

Just so you know, 22 year old men have a huge physical advantage over a 15 year old girl (note: girl, not woman) they also have the ablity to talk you into something withOUT you being aware. Thats real life for you, you NEVER have as much control as you think you do.

It's VERY clear threw your posts though that you aren't grown up enough to be in a relationship with anyone but 15 year old guys, who are probably right on your wave length.

 

wait what about this comment...

sorry, but i just had to point this out.

 

Oh when we LIE,what a web we weave!!! LMAO NOW WHAT??? Come up with something good.

 

lmao