I'm dating a guy and we get along real well and have alot in common, the problem is he is a marine and I'm a hippie and anti war. Could this cause problems, and if so is there a way to prevent the problems that could arise?
It's only going to be a problem if you think it will be. Nobody on these forums, unless they know you irl, will be able to tell you how you feel. If you have a problem with him being in the marines then yes there's a problem but if you don't have a problem with it then no there is no problem. I don't even know why you would think it would be a good idea to ask this question to people that don't know you. Do what you feel, if you have a problem with it then dump him, easy.
What if he is called up for duty in a war zone. Can you live with yourself knowing he is killing people for the profits of the man. If you cant live with him knowing that then you have a big problem and one you wont fix easily if ever without dumping him. If you can live with him knowing that then you just aint no hippie girl. Get it
Hi fallingstar.. you've already said that you get along well and have a lot in common, so that's a good start. without knowing more, it's hard to answer. how long have you been together? does he know that you're anti-war, I imagine that you've already discussed these things.. and will he be going away soon, and if he does, will you be able to handle the separation? talking is the answer in my opinion.. that and a lot of understanding from both sides and just dealing with problems as or if they happen. there's a saying, love conquers all, I wish you both well.
I don't know,fallingstar No-one is qualified to answer that ? except the both of you. There have been some harsh like responses. I think you really need to do some soul searching and he should do too. I don't think it's silly asking this here.It's a difficult riddle. I would'nt want to be in your shoes. Unfortunately,I also agree (somewhat) with some of the tough responses. Don't let anyone tell you what to do or put you down.The both of you have to make your own decisions. I'm trying to understand, I could'nt do it if I were in your shoes. It's not my life,Live and let live. Peace and Good luck whatever you do.
I had six brothers in WW2. Three were killed. The three who came home almost never spoke of the war. It left deep scars in their hearts and minds. One brother did tell me that he would never do it again though. It created a rift between him and his wife. They stayed married but never discussed the war because she was dead against war. He just died last year (87) years old. I've seen first hand the results of war in my family and would not wish it on anyone. Yes I was a bit terse in my response, but understand, war is going on right now and he might get sent to fight. It is a reality right now so you really need to ask yourself if you love him enough to be able to get past that part of his life and stay with him forever. My three surviving brothers all stayed in the forces until they retired together and they bought houses next to each other because they were really the only people they could talk to who understood. They felt pretty isolated from society. I suspect they felt pretty isolated even in their own family. Just know that if he goes to war he will return a different man, a man who may never want to talk about certain things, even with you. Can you live with that. You and he do have things to discuss. I hope they go well.
Hooty you have my respect for surviving that war, my dad is a WW2 vet (yes I was a change of life baby...he was almost 50 when I was born)...he almost didn't have to go, but turned 18 a few months before the war ended, was drafted and went over there...he lost his eye, part of his cheekbone, and the use of one hand, plus has pieces of shrapnel all over inside of him...just in the couple of months he was there. It was a messed up deal. He has told me shit that happened that no 18 year old should have to see. Laying in a foxhole and having a Japanese person fall on his bayonet, impaling themselves and instantly dying. These kids have my respect, I couldn't do what they do. It sucks. Fallingstar...I wish you luck. If you guys can make it work, more power to you. Hopefully the war will be over soon and then it won't matter anymore. Wouldn't that be nice!?
I hope that all is well with you fallingstar. relationships aren't always easy... just trust in love, truth and honesty.
Now, I'm not saying that killing people for an ignorant man like Bush is right, no where near it, but just cause he wants to defend his country doesn't mean it should make your relationship with him any harder. I have a brother in the military, and I am the anti-war flower child of our family, but I couldn't be more proud of my brother. I don't like that he is risking his life, and taking anothers, but he is risking his life to save me and my other two siblings. I know I'm just rambeling(or however it's spelled) but, what I'm pretty much trying to say is, don't let it affect anything. Love is love. gay,straight,black and white, or anti-war and military. If you love him (or atleast generally like him) don't let anything stop it.
