Boyfriend's online dating profile is still active?!

hmmm

 

Someone recently told me to observe the way guys act, rather than what they say.

Some guys will say anything to keep girls around, beware.

Judge their actions. It's the most obvious form of communication.

body language.

be well,

 

dump him like yesterdays garbage...you are certainly not overreacting, good for you on trusting your instinct!!

 

because you my dear are not permanent. While your love might last.. Even be long term, Unless you get married... LOL.. hes just a BOYfriend..and nothing more, You dont own him, and he and you can do as you please...
and just because his light/active online is on, dont mean hes not sleeping..
I fall asleep and leave my pc on all the time, Ppl say where have you been how come you didnt answer me... I was away from the computer but it shows Im there and Im not..
...

 

Leave that loser. I have NO time for assholes like that.

 

Well, don't base everything on his online status on MySpace. Oftentimes, I've seen it keep people logged in for hours after they log out. But if he's trying to hide you, if he feels like he should have something TO hide, you've got some massive problems and it sounds like you should let him have his little MySpace girlfriends so you can find someone who isn't ashamed to let the world know he's taken. Confront him, don't be mean or accuse him of anything, just mention it. If he doesn't change it or makes up some BS excuse, then you'll know.

And orison, you bring up a good point, but if Confused is looking for something of a semi-permanent or even long-term nature, then maybe she should find a guy who's looking for the same thing. She may not own him, but she does have a right to be a little upset that he claims being single, even though he's not.

 

@ Kinky, Ive dealt with the open relationship, the GF at once point being jealous, then not giving a shit.. Im not the stalker type, I dont care what the women does I dont own her, dont look into her phone or web pages, I dont care who she meets.. For one shes can be friends with whoever she chooses', Its about honesty and stuff.
Dont hide nothing, While being out in the open has its harm too.. But it depends on what your doing also..
If hes just being a man whore and hitting all kinds of bitches and not just one or two..
Then you need to make a decission.. Get rid of that he dont care about anything but tang. nothing personal about the girls he sleeps with..
While I was in a open rela' I only had one other Gf that my ex knew of..
and most of the others I bumped into I had no intrest..
Im still much like that I will not just sleep around because my D, says so.. I need a bit of commonality with a partners... Or else Id get laid ever night and that sounds good and all but its not totally healthy to just have sex with anything that moves..

 

can you tell when he last logged into the dating site? if it hasnt been sine the week yall declared being monogamous, i wouldnt worry much

 

I should mention that a few days before I found out his profile was active, he took me to meet his mom. But even then he said something about it being "no big deal". But now that I think about it, he showers me with affection and says he wants to see me all the time, but he never really says anything like, that he only wants me, etc. A relationship to me might mean something totally different to him, but I thought we had talked enough to understand that we want the same things.

But he has mentioned having commitment issues and pulling away in the past, when someone got too close. Or he somehow thinks I want a threesome, he has made some odd comments about me being with another girl being hot, commenting on girls in public to me. This weekend I thought I made it clear that I am not up for a threesome. But a guy can always hope I guess.

Oh, and to clarify, he has been online a few times on his profile since we have been official. He was online for a few hours last night when he said he was going to sleep. He logged off Messenger saying he was gonna sleep, then texted my phone an hour later saying he was really gonna sleep then. All the while, being online on his online dating profile....

I just don't understand why he would make a comment about how good it makes him feel that I changed my myspace status to "in a relationship" and change other things regularly on his myspace, but he still states he's "single"....

 

dump his rear

 

So he tells me he's gonna watch a movie, urges me to go watch my tv show which happened to not be on til 9. And now he's online on his dating profile...and he has ceased to talk to me.

This totally sucks, since i've already been cheated on. In the past I have been too forgiving, but I just can't anymore. How am I supposed to end it? How do I bring this up? He wants to see me tomorrow and honestly it will be hard to hide my emotions, he already senses somethings wrong, so he called me to tell me he misses me and loves me...ugh, makes me sick. I don't care if someone is in to whatever they are in to, but don't lie to me that's all I ask. I guess i'm asking for too much.

Are there any honest people in the world anymore?

 

Have you said something to him...some guys just don't update that stuff..ever! FWIW, myspace is not a 'dating site' its just a site.

 

it shows he's been online multiple times since we have been together, he's online as we speak and i'm not talking about myspace, its a completely separate dating site....specifically meant to meet people....

 

Personal realations and meeting different people has a positive effect in many realtionships and at different levels of society. Leading to many
opportunities that might not exist had that person not met the other. . Have you become selfish and only want him to be with you.. Why dont you go online and meet ppl too..
Cutting off socialization in your relationship will just end your realationship..

Id rather be with a outgoing honest person.. Flirting is good. Maybe even outside sex is good too.. Im beginning to thinks to myself. That even though my Gf loves me alot she cant handle me alone, Im really alot of maintaince and is the place I live...
How you have a realationship, working different hours? one life is like this(relaxed) the other is stressfull. And the sex is routine..
Maybe you aint kicking it enough, not as nasty as he wants, maybe to nasty, not open minded...
Are your intentions to crash realtionship? your spyware is doing it for you.....

 

I would...
Create a new account on that dating website using some other chicks picture (who he does not know, obviously) and pretend to be interested in him. If he goes for the "bait" then dump his ass. Good luck!