It's been a very trying month and today the stuff hit the fan. DD will be 12 in three weeks. About a month ago her left breast started to grow...A LOT. Her right breast is still flat as a board. DD has been brought to near hysterics over it. DH and I have been trying to reassure her that it's not that noticeable, but it really is. We thought by now the right breast would have caught up, especially with how fast her left breast has grown. She knows that lopsidedness is normal, but I never would have thought it would be like this. I feel so bad for her, because she has never been embarrassed about anything before. Today we went back to school shopping...we bought a few camis with poofy tops that do a pretty good job of hiding the difference. Has anybody else had to deal with this? Any ideas on what we can buy to make the difference less obvious. My mom suggested getting her a falsie and a bra, but DD refuses to wear a bra...her breast is too tender. Then, to top it all off, DD's friend who will also be in the 7th grade told DD tonight that she thinks 7th grade girls have to shower after physical education...so DD cried herself to sleep tonight. I feel so bad for her, and I don't know what to do to help!!! Please I need some inventive ideas!!!!!
some lopsidedness is normal, some is a problem, i'd have that checked out. in the meantime, however, getting a gel bra with the gel on one side and removed from the other is very helpful. i knew a girl who showered after PE in a bathing suit. if she DOES have to shower, maybe she can go that route. very few people will ever mock a girls requirement for privacy and modesty. the ones who do i consider suspect and therefore worth only of ignoring.
Aww, I am sorry she is going through this and it might not seem that important but it is to her I am sure--reassure her that she isnt the only one with this problem!
Most locker rooms have at least one private shower stall, so if all else fails she can use it. If she is concerned about the size differences she could wear loose shirts or sweaters. It's sad that she has to hide, but it is also understandable why she wants to. I would make a dr appointment, just to make sure everything is okay. Your daughters hormones are haywire right now (which I am sure you know)...so hard to predict exactly what will happen or when it will happen. Maybe the doctor could give her some helpful solutions (like caffeine, chocolate, etc makes breasts tender and sore sometimes not just during periods)
What a unfortunate situation. Like KC said, I'd get her a padded bra. She may appear larger than she, which she may like, and she'll appear symmetrical. The shower thing is rough. I think the showers should be optional myself. Go have a talk with her PE teacher and see what you can do.
