I have to confess somewhere

I'm a pretty happily married mommy, and a couple weeks ago I met a very hot guy and made out with him for a long time. And he gave me oral. I still can't believe I did that!!! And I wish I hadn't enjoyed it SOOO much!

 

Aw dude that sucks, cheating is a low thing to do.

 

Your husband isn't giving you anything?

 

hey, whats up. im the dude you hooked up with. wanna go round two?

 

so its ok with your husband?

 

lol.

i smell a troll.

 

Oh gosh no....I'm never telling him about it! He would FREAK!!

 

If he was ugly would you have just gotten a brown paper sack to put over his head and cut out a mouth hole than...?

 

You owe it to him to tell him.

 

never tell him.

he will agonize over it forever, and what if he wants a divorce??? don't break up your family over this. he'll never find out. put it in the vault and think of it as your dirty little secret.

we all got em.

 

ok maybe dont tell him if you arent going to keep it up

 

why is the typical knee-jerk reaction to see the cheater as a scumbag or something? Are we all that dependent on each other for emotional stability that infidelity is the lowest thing you can do? do we really know that monogamy is an absolute good? if so why do only half of marriages last?

I think it's insulting to humanity that we have to fall to pieces if our spouse/partner cheats. Don't we have enough going on inside that we don't have to be ruled by jealousy?

To the OP: don't tell your guy, fuck that. also, rid yourself of the guilt you feel. There is no inherent guilt with what you did, we only interpret that we should feel guilty because of cultural context. Your guy might sense guilt, but he won't sense infidelity. So cast off your feelings of guilt and live. The past is done, move forward with love for your fam and the misdeed will cease to have existed.

edit: guilt isn't all bad though. if initial feelings of guilt remind you of what's most important to the point that you embrace that which you find most important, then its job is done and you can dismiss the guilt

 

Well said.

 

Personally I could care less if my husband cheated on me. I think the concept of one person always is a bit weird but I'm not your normal person.

 

cheating is selfish, hurtful, and can be devastating to families...yeah there is a knee jerk reaction that says a person is a scumbag for doing it- because they have entered a committed relationship and more than likely agreed to be faithful...if you made a deal for an open relationship then hey, all the power to ya, but if not you're a jerk.

 

I agree with Mary, if it's been said that it's a open relationship then whatever. Fuck who you want. But if it's a closed marriage then you are a scumbag for cheating.