Hello, I really need advice on approaching women that I find attractive, weather it be a bar or whatever, social places that kind of thing... How should I come on to them? Is it ok to say ''I saw you from over there and you have the most beautiful eyes'' or something? Making conversation is a big problem with me, I could probably start off ok and say like ''So are you enjoying yourself?'' and then compliment there looks or something. My mind would go blank after a while and i'd run out of things to say, shyness and lack of confidence/fear of rejection is also a big problem I face too... Any advice please? Thanks.
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How about starting a conversation saying "Haven't we met before? Were you at _________ last weekend? If they say no, then ask them where they are from, etc. and start a conversation. Don't come on with "you have beautiful eyes" right away - that sound weird. Before you get to the event, figure out four or five conversation starters to use, such as whether or not she likes a certain musical group or how terrible George Bush and John McCain are.
What if its a place im going to for the first time? At what point should I come in with the physical compliments?
Listen, the only way to get over your shyness and lack of confidence is to practice, practice, practice. You should approach every woman you wish to speak with and maybe some you don't necessarily want to speak with (good practice). Do don't fear rejection ... it's half the fun. You have nothing to fear but fear itself (someone famous once said that). Seriously though ... just be yourself. Don't over analyze it ... just do it. Believe me, i use to be the same way. The way i got over it was to just start talking to them. (i at least say hello to every woman i would like to be with no matter where i am.) Your approach to start a conversation shows them immediately that you are a confinate person and at the same time you are working on that shyness thing. DO NOT use the common pickup lines. be sincere. if you find they in fact have beautiful eyes, nice hair, looking nice in what they are wearing ... tell them that, that is a good place to start. women LOVE to be complimented ... just don't over do it. as far as continuing a conversation ... well that's easy ... get them to talk about themselves. people love to talk about themselves. this way you can find out more about the person and if they are interesting enough there will be more there to talk about. not only that, you may find that you have common interests which you can now contribute to the conversation. perhaps the most import thing to remember is not to start a conversation with the thought of banging the chick ... just relax with the whole thing. be cool and she will be cool with you. try it ... you have nothing to lose.
I don't like the bar scene, most of my girlfriends I met at house parties. But anyway, the best approach is to find some line, I suggest a rather random one to get her attention, maybe a funny one, something on the tv at the bar or a joke about some guy in a club, etc. Then introduce yourself. Then think of something to talk about, no ideas, just ask her some info about herself, etc. I really do think it's better to meet people through friends though.
